Has any female had a long term relationship/marriage work out by totally initiating the chase and asking him out?

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Has any female had a long term relationship/marriage (i.e. he proposed) work out by totally initiating the chase and asking him out yourself whilst he was platonic and not showing signs of fancying you?

I'm mainly asking out of curiosity :)

We were both firting but it was me who said I really like you and want more. We then started to date and the rest is history(16 years this year and 10 years of marriage) :)

Not really but I made it pretty clear that I was very interested and put myself in his way , so to speak. He did all the pursing, calling and I love you's first though. I was just highly receptive and encouraging.

Yes, me! We've been together twenty seven years and celebrate our silver wedding soon!

10 years in here! Doubt anything would have happened if I hadn't said I liked him. When I told him he said he hadn't really thought about me in that way. A few weeks later, he kissed me. The rest, as they say, is history :-)

Good luck! Just go for it, if you really like him (but only if you're willing to risk the friendship).

Me too... 25 years together married 12..

We were students on the same course ,and had known each other a year before I gave up waiting for him to make a move and asked him over to dinner one evening .. he didnt go home..

He now claims he was planning to ask me out all along .. However , who knows when, and it took him 13 years to ask me to marry him

There is nothing to say a women cannot ask a man out, even if there is no sure sign that he fancies you back.

When i first met my husband, he knew I fancied him from the moment I saw him but it was me who did the asking. I asked for his number, added on Facebook and suggested we go to the cinema after a lot of flirty texting. However, if you haven't had any of that there are ways you can ask without coming across desperate. Theres a website I used to use when I was single called anewmode that is run by this guy and girl in America who are relationship guru's. I referred to that a lot so you may pick up some tips on how to do the asking.

If your confident enough, ask him person. However, I do remember with my first boyfriend. I messaged him on Bebo (back in the day) and suggested we hang out to see a movie sometime! I said it in a way it could be perceived as friends and that way if he said no then it wasn't a big deal. You will know at the movie whether he see's it as a date or not. Another suggestion very similar is say.. how about a coffee sometime? Thats works when the person is a work colleague and your not sure abut being direct because work place relationships may not be encouraged.

I wish you luck and just remember regardless if he says no, your all the better for asking.

Yep. I’m in Oz and crossed paths with DH who is European and was based in the Middle East.

We married two years later and spent 72 days of those two years together. Lots of writing letters.

Another here too! I met this guy at work and really fancied him.
Emailed his friend and asked if he knew whether or not he was single. He then told him I fancied him 🤦🏻‍♀️
Anyway, it turns out we had something in common so we started emailing back and for and then one day, I bit the bullet and asked him for a drink.
I fell in love on our first date and knew he was my one. 10 years later married with 2 beautiful children 💗

Nice stories everyone :) Thanks for the responses.