Should I stay out of fiancé’s family drama? How?

[chocoholicwifey]

My fiancé’s younger brother has a girlfriend who none of his family approve of - she’s extremely rude and manipulative has treated him badly throughout their year long relationship.

All they do is bitch about her, (which has lead to me feeling paranoid about how I’m discussed when I’m not there, despite our great relationship).

Anyway, I worry about getting involved in their gossiping because I think that it makes me look bitchy, but it’s really hard not too when it’s all they talk about. Also, I feel sorry for the girl because he loves her and the more they him they shouldn’t be together the more he wants to be. How do I go about this situation?

Don’t want to look like a total cow bitching about their son / his girlfriend the way they do, but also trying desperately to be one of the family :(

Sorry if this is very rambly.

Then don't get involved. I just wouldn't be drawn, don't bitch about her, rise above it, ignore it and don't say anything. Hopefully they'll get the message the you're not interested in sitting around gossiping and slagging her off, and also there's no come back on you if any of this gets back to her.

I agree stay out of it there is always two sides to every story and whoever shouts the loudest and has a lot of listeners people tend to judge in their favour. We had the same situation in my family my sisters hated my brother`s girlfriend with a passion I stayed out of it because I was very lucky I live in the opposite side of the world :) and right before Christmas my brother had a secret wedding and non of us were invited