A thread for those thinking of leaving their relationships/marriages

[volvica]

Really hoping for other people to join here as I feel completely lost.

I have 1 DS with DP. I've been going back and forth for a while but there's just something there where I can't shake that I don't want to be in the relationship anymore. I feel like we are just wanting it to work more than it is. I feel like we bring out the worst sides of each other.
I'm not sure what I'm going to do and don't have anyone to talk to. If there's anyone else in this situation, let's jump on this thread so we can support each other through it as it's so confusing with DC.

Hi yes I left partner of 10 yrs just before Christmas after he controlled me and was emotionally abusive in every manner. We have 3 yr old DD. It’s a rollercoaster of emotions. Mumsnet has been my saviour and my family and close friends have been great. I don’t think I would have stayed away without listening to the horror stories of MNetters who have lived with Emotional abuse. I’m still feeling guilty over leaving. But I can’t go back for both me and DD.

It’s very strange splitting childcare, and started looking for a rental property. I try not think of the future and not put pressure on myself but I’m taking little steps in the right direction.

Make sure you reach out on here and to family and friends and please keep talking. How olds your little one? Big hugs

@louisejanep sorry to hear that it's good you're taking steps in the right direction & that you had the strength to finish it in the first place.

My DS is very almost 2.

After lurking on the boards for a looong time I’m finally ready to actually post.
A year ago I found out DH had been having an affair for several months when DS was around 18 months old. It’s been absolutely devastating, but I’ve been trying to keep our family together. We’ve been having couples counselling since last spring but nothing has really changed and I’m so bloody miserable. I want to separate but I’m paralysed with the fear of going it alone - how I’ll cope financially and having 50/50 residency.

Big current thread here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3436114-Anyone-else-know-they-need-to-split-but-either-too-chicken-to-go-through-or-delaying-for-other-reasons?pg=5&order=

I’d like to join please . I’m male just so you all know. I’m having relationship problems with my wife of 13 years . 14 years in May. But we have been together 18 years . I’m 38 and she’s 36.
Because of how she is with money we also now have money problems. I have a thread on here explaining it all and I’ve had some really good advice off the lady’s on here.
Because of the problems in my life I’m now
Also being treated for anxiety and depression. I’ve managed to destroy my own mental health while trying to hold things together for my two DD . I’m not sure much longer I can go on with then way gongs are . But I’m not sure I’m in a good enough place mentally to leave and get my life back on track . Also feel really guilty because of my DDs .