Trust issues

[Gettingsomewhere]

After a lifetime of not-so-great experiences, how do you learn how to trust again? I want to build good, positive, loving relationships, but I feel I'm on high alert for red flags the whole time. And advice on how to relax??

I just took it slowly. It helped that my new partner after my abusive-ex I knew already as a friend, but I was very cautious for the first few months.

Fortunately, we have now been together over 2 years and are very happy. I feel for you though, take things slow and just think about what makes you feel comfortable!

Oh god it's so difficult! My ExH lied and cheated and I swore off men for life. Then I met the chap I'm with now. I've had to learn to trust again but it helps that he's so very different from the ex in every way.

I'm still taking it slowly - we live separately and have our own lives but I can see us having a future together as he's so reliable and in the last 3 years he's not let me down once.

Thanks for your replies. Relieved it's not just me finding it difficult!
I'm really bad at taking things slowly in general, so this will be tough. Deep breaths