Help!! Body confidence

[Purplealienpuke]

I've been single for quite some time now. I decided to give online dating a go.
This gorgeous man messaged me, we conversed for a while and he asked me out. All good. But I'm so worried about getting my kit off when it comes to it!!
He's a fitness instructor. I'm a slightly overweight unfit woman with wobbly bits. I don't particularly like looking at myself...
He definitely is interested, as I am. He isn't pressuring me or rushing to get in the bedroom.
Any helpful suggestions please??

Go for a coffee with him first to see if you actually like him.

If you do end up sleeping with him after a few more dates or whenever, don't worry about your shape!
He can see roughly what your shape is like when you're dressed anyway unless you wear very baggy clothes!

We have already been out a few times. We've kissed.
I'm a grown woman feeling like a teenager. Ridiculous I know.

I see. I think I would feel very similarly nervous to be fair as it's been a looong time!
And I've just started dating after a couple of years.

Purplealienpuke I sympathise entirely, but I would suggest that, unless you turned up for all your dates in a muumuu, he already KNOWS that you're slightly overweight with wobbly bits. And guess what - he's still interested! I know it's easy for me to say that, and believe me, I would be in exactly the same mindset if I were in your situation. But I would also be furious with myself if I let the chance to be with a man I really liked and fancied slip by because of my own hangups.

Confidence is the sexiest thing there is. Don’t let on you feel inadequate or ashamed! Act as if you know you’re a sexy goddess and that you know he’s as lucky to be naked with you as you are him. If you have a connection by the time you go to bed together you’ll both be so desperate to get into each other the fears and anxieties will melt away. He knows you’re not a fitness model, if he only wanted a fitness model he wouldn’t be meeting up with you :)

I'm a slightly overweight unfit woman with wobbly bits

Perhaps that's what he likes. Not everyone fancies supermodels.

Thank you lovely people!
I've just treated myself to some new underwear 😉 .
I will be nervous but try not to show it when the time comes.

That was me 100 times over when I started dating - but confidence s everything. Underwear, makeup, hair, waxing, all over moisturiser - everything you can do to make you feel good in your wonderful body will make him desperate to feel good in there too. Good luck and enjoy OP

I'm bisexual and my preference is for a "soft" lady men like the same too! Not all, of course, we all have our own thing. But evidently he likes your thing. Him being a fitness instructor isn't really relevant to be honest. Slim men like bigger women, bigger men like slimmer women and everything in between.

Good luck

I've found it useful to look at women who look like me, and then realise that if they look banging at their size and shape, then maybe I do too we are too hard on ourselves almost always

Thank you for your perspective Dirtybadger. 😊