Cheating work colleague

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The other day at work ( a warehouse)a woman and 2 other male colleagues came to my section to help out. One of the male colleagues was a supervisor. They were talking quite loud and bold. So the supervisor says to the woman ... you know R has a wife. (The woman is in a relationship with R . He has a wife and kids abroad) so the woman starts giggling and laughing and says "ohh guess what the other day, his wife came on video chat while I was there. I even saw his kid hahaa". They were all laughing at the situation.

When I heard the kid part... i popped off and spoke to the supervisor right there and asked him why he's supporting adultery ( because that's what it was). He was acting as though he didn't know what I meant and said that's a private conversation . I said its in my work area and everyone around can hear so its not private.

The woman and R, are openly in a relationship at work. I'm extremely disgusted by the woman's unapologetic attitude about dating another woman's husband, and I'm even more disgusted by the man's disloyal behavior towards his wife and kids. What's worse is that the management know and facilitate their behaviour by pairing them up in work tasks and areas.

I usually mind my business and don't say anything. But this time I couldn't stop myself from reacting and giving the supervisor a piece of my mind. And instead of helping me out with the workload. They were just standing there chatting which was the cherry on top - no scratch that; the kid popping up on video call was the cherry... and the biscuit lol

My question what would you have done? Am I right to feel some type of way?

Is he hoping to marry her for a UK passport? The happens.

Ugh sounds like my exes workplace. How old is she? Sounds a bit immature.

She's eastern european - he's African. She ain't got no uk passport, neither has he.

They r both older 35 + but yes very immature... happy to be a side chick kind of chick. They're always all over eachother too.

I just had to post on here to let it all out.

Why do you think your supervisor cares what you think. If I was your collegue I would think badly of him but I would also think badly of you. You are inserting yourself into a drama that has absolutely nothing to do with you in any way, shape or form. You are a background extra in it trying to make yourself a bit player. Stay in your lane. Not everything is about you and not everything needs your opinion heard.

It’s not good but it’s also none of your business

OP, I totally get where you are coming from but you are seriously NOT doing yourself any favours here.

It's not up to your work to judge morality but it IS up to your work to ensure that the work get's done. Those people standing around and chattering are evidently not working (unless it was a break?) so why isnt the immediate supervisor not telling them to crack on?

They are not acting in the best interests of the company and if I was boss, I'd be questioning that above everything else. Work is work.

I perceive OP you are actually working for really quite an insidious company. Maybe a better way to have gone round this is to have complained to supervisor why are all these people are fucking around on the job? (For the record, I was a line support engineer so I know all the tricks. Well, most of them.)

As to that poor women. You could get a message to her but actually in this case, focus your energies on finding a better place to work.

Good luck OP!

@knitted

Stay in your lane

I don't like this statement. At. All.

Renarde1975

I didn't like 1975. Shitty year. Oh well.

You will let me know when you say something genuinely witty, won't you @knitted as oppose to derivative? Wouldn't want to miss it...

Work is work.

And not the time to be concerning yourself with other people's relationships.

Keep out of it OP. It's going to end badly for you if you don't.

OP - you are getting involved into something that’s not your business.
And, getting upset with management for not enforcing morals - is just silly and makes you look like you are just looking for trouble.

On a side note - you know nothing about that man and his arrangement. You don’t know if he is actually married to the mother of his children. Or if he is from a country where men routinely have several wives - yes - it’s quite prevalent in several African countries.
So - it’s very arrogant to bring our own measuring stick to it all.

Why did you think you should speak up? It’s not your personal life, these people aren’t your friends. Quickest way to make things difficult at work for yourself tbh. MYOB.

I would feel disgusted by it too.

Well you don't actually know what sort of marriage it is so it might not be as bleak as you think.

I understand you finding it al upsetting though. You could tackle it in a smarter manner; escalate every time they drop the ball because they are standing around chatting. Complain about PDAs - they are not work appropriate.

I would not have done anything. There is nothing I can do to make this right. Both of the protagonists are clearly aware of the situation and neither have any issue with the morality. The supervisor isn’t responsible for their morality either unless it impacts on their work. It doesn’t at the moment. Maybe if they fell out but then all workplace relationships would have to be banned.

I just don’t see the point in articulating my opinion in this situation. Because it’s not something I can do anything about I wouldn’t give it headspace. If it bothered me, the way it does you, I would explore why.