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To speak to my ex after 5 years

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Hotchocolate18 · 06/01/2019 20:49

I met him 5 years ago I was early 20s and so was he. I liked to party and I was a mess when I went out drinking. Very ashamed of how I used to be. I was pretty lost and didn't have a direction until I had my DS 3 years ago. We broke up on bad terms with him being blunt with me and he also had to work in another country for a couple months and he done it then over a video call. Both immature on both of our behalf.
Fast forward to now, he's just messaged me apologising and says he was horrible and immature and selfish back then. We've been talking about the good times we had. Do you think I should carry on talking with him? People do grow up as I'm evidence of it. I'm just in two minds whether to leave him in the past or not.

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Hotchocolate18 · 06/01/2019 21:17

Bump

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pudding21 · 06/01/2019 21:20

Are you single? If no, don’t go there. Just don’t. If yes, why not, and see where things go. Maybe he’s just catching up?

NotTheFordType · 06/01/2019 21:24

If you were a mess when you were with him then it sounds like he enabled your messiness, if you know what I mean.

Has he said he's got sober? Maybe he's working the 12 steps and doing the making amends part.

Does talking to him, on reflection, make you feel happier or sadder?

Musti · 06/01/2019 21:33

What's your and his situation and what do you want to happen? Donyou have a child together?

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 06/01/2019 21:44

Depends on if you're single or not. I think people can grow up and change

Hotchocolate18 · 06/01/2019 21:55

nottheford he wasn't an addict and neither was i. I just didn't know my limits when it came to going out and drinking and becoming a nightmare when drunk. I showed myself up a few times while together in front of his friends which I'm embarrassed about. Like I said though I'm not that person Any more.
Yes we are both single now

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Thingsdogetbetter · 07/01/2019 07:35

Can you clarify the timeline? How long you were together etc?

WereYouHareWhenIWasFox · 07/01/2019 07:38

Is he your child’s father? If he isn’t I would want to move on.

ponyprincess · 07/01/2019 07:40

What whenIwasafox said

Hotchocolate18 · 07/01/2019 08:33

We weren't together long 6 months. But I felt really strongly about him. He isn't my son's father

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