dh and I married 5 years ago. We last saw his parents on our wedding day. His mother was disgusted that we did not have the wedding she wanted. She is waiting for an apology for dh marrying me. dh believes the only time he will be able to build bridges with his mother is if we divorce.
We have had two gorgeous sons in the last five years. dh and I love each other completely. He has had to choose me over his mother. I have sent pictures of my babies, invites to visit, nice cards etc ever since ds1 was born to my parents-in-law (always with my dh blessing) But nothing in 5 years - they have never seen or cuddled their adorable grandsons. dh parents send expensive presents, cards and letters to my sons (who are 1 and 2) but ignore invites, or make up excuses when we invite them to visit. I, personnally have not spoken to either MIL or FIL since just after the wedding dinner. My sons will soon be of an age when we need to explain. I can't give up for their sake, but my husband thinks it is a lost cause. BTW dh has two brothers and MIL hates both their wives. dh's brothers have not seen their mother for 7 and 3 years respectively (since they got married, actually).
I don't want to give up, for dh and ds sakes, but how can you fix this one? My own father died many years ago and my mother is not interested in my children. My gorgeous boys do not have a single doting grandparent. I makes me want to cry.