....I appear to be the only one who can see them! My friends (who drink where I work) are all encouraging me to go out with this guy and are getting funny with me because I wont.
Red Flags.....
Refuses to pay maintenance to his ex as she "used it to go out drinking with it" so buys stuff for the kids instead and (says) he puts money in accounts in their names instead. Says she is ok with this 
Doesnt see his kids as much as he says he wants to because his ex is a bitch
Love bombs. Has been all over me like a rash, FB messages calling me beautiful, messaging several times a day despite me being very cool with him (accepted friend request before the red flags were flying), telling me how much he likes me.
Gaslighting. What he said isnt what he meant, I misunderstood or misheard. This was when I called him on not paying maintenance and said it was not up to him what she spent her income on and he had no right to say she couldnt go out for a drink when he was doing the same thing.
Brushing off my rejection of him and acting as if I hadnt said I wasnt interested.
The problem I have is that he is an ok bloke to have a drink and chat with at the pub, so everyone thinks he is lovely and they dont understand why I wont date him. I am recently single and dont want to date at all, but certainly wouldnt date him in a million years. But I suspect when he finally accepts that I am not going to give in he will turn nasty and start slagging me off. I work in hospitality and I wouldnt go out with a customer anyway, dont shit where you eat and all that, my boss completely understands but I could do without the embarrassment.
WWYD?