Fed up

[cupidandpsyche]

Sitting here in tears - I've hurt my back and 'D'H is behaving like an arse, just leaving me to do all the shit work at home as normal. He has once asked what he can do to help, other than that, zilch, nada, nothing. Surely I shouldn't have to ask for help, isn't it fucking obvious that I'm struggling??? I know I should be more assertive and tell him, but frankly, I'm just pissed off.
Rant over. Just needed to get that off my chest. Sorry.

Please whip away your tears and regain your strength. You need to have a honest conversation with your husband without being emotional. I understand that you cannot help being emotional but your husband is more likely to hear you (really hear you) and understand what you need if you are the opposite of emotional.

I also find that when my husband pisses me off, the silent treatment works wonders to get him to apologise and give me what I want more than crying. Sometimes crying just pushes men further away!

He didn't see me crying deadlift, I found him upstairs asleep. I know how I should have dealt with this, but I'm just upset at how he's behaved.

Put your feet up and tell him you can't continue to do everything. Just don't do it. Then he will have to pull his finger out. I feel your pain. Literally. My back has been hurting the past 2 days too.

Is he usually so shit, or is this out of character for him? If he's always an inconsiderate twat then he might be past saving, but if he's usually better than this, tell him tomorrow that you're in pain, you want him to take care of you and that you're annoyed that this needs spelling out as it should be a given in a loving relationship.

If he's anything other than sorry and helpful tell him to piss off and spend the day in bed with a book. Don't keep doing the shit work, leave it for him and make it clear you won't be doing it when you're better either. Whatever mess and extra work he makes this weekend is his to sort out.