First time poster - relationship break down

[Ashwater]

Hi all

This is my first post on mumsnet and I guess I’m just looking for someone to talk to who isn’t a rl friend.

My boyfriend of 8 months finished our relationship, 6 hours after exchanging christmas presents. I feel completely blind sided but also know the relationship wasn’t perfect.

He said that he knows he wasn’t giving me enough and hated the thought of letting me down but that he just can’t give me more at moment.

I thought I was ok but I realised this evening that were done. I was doing the whole let’s be friends thing, but he was just being kind.

Feel gutted.

Why can't he at the moment? Have you tried to talk to him?

I have tried to talk to him but every time we have a conversation it just becomes a slightly flirty laughing chat.

Tonight I met him for a drink and I just couldn’t bring it up. I messaged after and he said he was happy to talk about us but he didn’t think there was anything more to say.

It’s my own fault for thinking he was being more than friendly and trying to make me feel better.

@Ashwater so is he just expecting you to say you'll wait until he's ready? I just don't know why he would say that after 8 months. Has he got stuff going on?

If not he's trying to be gentle whilst breaking up.

He’s hinted at things going on, but hasn’t told me details. From what has told me I wonder whether depression plays a part in it all.

I think he is trying to be gentle. He said he didn’t want me to stress and worry about things.