When did you know it was the end of your marriage?

[Tillytoes1]

Hi,
Feeling like our marriage has turned toxic, many reasons but I have started to feel depressed and anxious. Husband has a Jackel and Hyde personality and I find him hard work, one minute he’s pleasant and one minute he can be cold, he always exaggerates situations, he called me nasty for asking where a lead was because I said he needed to be more organised, I certainly was not nasty in the slightest about it. He can be very reactive at times and takes things personally. I asked him to drop a parcel off as he was passing somewhere this morning but said he wouldn’t, I also asked him to drop something back to our neighbour next door that we borrowed but he also said no, he will do it when he’s ready. Is marriage counselling worth it? When did you know that the end was the end and you couldn’t carry things on? I am also mother to his three children and I am currently a SAHM so don’t have a job at the moment, so no means of supporting myself.

TIA

How old are the children?

No. Joint counselling is never recommended when there is abuse involved.
And this is abuse and yes it's toxic and yes it's time to end it.
Please contact CAB and Shelter.
See where you would stand upon separation.
You would probably be entitled to housing benefits, tax credits etc... and may find you are actually financially better off without him.
He would also need to pay child maintenance.
This is not a good relationship and it's not a model to be showing your DC for their adult relationships.
It's affecting your mental health now.
No man is worth that!

Google - cycle of abuse!
Also look at THIS THREAD

The scales are falling from your eyes regarding this man.
Time to look into your options!

Yes - how old are the DC and do you own or rent your current property and who's name is it in?

And to answer your question, I knew it was over when I found out he was cheating on me.
That's a total deal-breaker for me so it was, bye bye!