Dating advice

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Hi all
Wanted to pick your brains abit.

I’m a single mother an have been for 4 years. In that time I have had about 3 single dates (All leading to nothing / just friends). Anyway a few weeks ago (say end of November) I had met a nice gentleman and we have exchanged numbers and have been in contact a lot. We have had about 3 dates now I have enjoyed them and from what I know he seems to like me a lot.

My main problem I suppose is I find we have busy separate lives so we don’t really have time to see each other. I know it’s only been a few weeks but bare with me ;

We live the total opposite ends of the city we live in. Not bad for dates as we meet in the middle. However he works in retail and his usual shift finishes at 11pm and after closing the store and cashing up and such he often doesn’t leave until 11:20 sometimes. So meeting up on weekdays or basically when he has work (which can even sometimes be 6 days a week) is impossible.

He also has uni and studies 3 days a week which is again nearby where he lives so again I couldn’t see him on uni days either.
And sometimes he works after uni also if he needs to go in. So no time to see him anyway.

Weekends if his free (and if I have childcare - which is rare) we meet but again it’s hit and miss.

We have spoke recently about booking a weekend break away together and going to do some sightseeing and I love the idea of it and I would love to do so, however at the back of my mind I feel like realistically this isn’t going to work long term if we aren’t going to be able to have time to see each other.

What would you do ?
From what I know of him I like him a lot and I feel he feels the same way but at the same time I feel like if it’s not going to work and just end in tears I’d rather not bother wasting neither my time nor his.

Thanks in advance

Last week we met up and had a fantastic time going to the cinema and didn’t want the date to end but had to because it was getting late and after 11 there’s no transport where I live so I wouldn’t be able to get back home.

Obviously we’re not at the stage of having sleepovers yet (haven’t been intimate yet) and if I’m honest I don’t want to be just yet. I’m enjoying getting to know each other.

But realistically I can’t see how things are going to progress if we don’t have time to see each other ?

Quality not quantity!
If you like each other (and it sounds like you both do) then you’ll find a way of making it work, I would definitely persevere with seeing him. How long has he got left st uni? Once he finishes his schedule and probably job will both change, I wouldn’t give up just yet if you like each other, good luck!

@overnightangel thank you for the advice. He has another year of uni left and has mentioned he may move away if he can’t get a job in London (Which although is a long way away I’m not sure weather I would be going with him) so again I’m abit on the fence.

If I’m totally honest I just don’t want to be heartbroken again and I feel I would be purely because I feel I would continue getting to know him and liking him and in a few months the up and down travelling and lack of seeing each other would get old and we would split anyway.

Bump ?