Apologising when in the wrong

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Been married for 5 years, 3 kids, a pretty happy marriage all in all I think but there is one thing that is really bothering me. If we have a little argument or disagreement, my DH has just stopped apologising, ever. Even if he is quite clearly in the wrong. I feel that if I do something wrong admitting that and apologising is the normal thing to do. He thinks that we are past the point of needing to apologise and discuss if we have an argument. Instead he will just go to bed and wake up the next day like nothings happened.
This really bugs me and makes me really moody with him. He then manages to turn it round on me and say that I always drag things out 🤔.

Is he right, do you get to a point in a relationship where actually it's just not worth arguing!? Or is he just being lazy!? He said in the last discussion of this that we have 3 kids and are always going to be together so it doesn't make a difference. I feel like that's his way of getting away with not caring about my feelings?x

He sounds quite complacent, assuming you'll always be together even if he doesn't treat you well

I think this is a bloke thing.my husband doesn't apologist and tbh after 25 years it really naffs me off. No one is ever right all of the time. Also worked in the corporate world for a long time and I wonder if it comes from there - never explain,never apologise.

I'd tell him there's no excuse to being disrespectful to another person. Smart people 'own it', when they're in the wrong.
The selfish, immature and petty sorts don't.

I think this is a bloke thing

Sigh.

I'd not be moody with him

That's just childish

I'd tell him the next morning that 'I accept your apology which I know you'd give, if you were able'

And then I'd move on and be happy and jolly

Quite, Shatners Wig. And it dies really p me off. I think women do the opposite and over-apologise.
It's not right. In either case

@thereallifesaffy No, I was sighing at your sweeping generalisation.

Sorry
Bad behaviour is perpetrated by both sexes
Just raw from a recent incident (am having some issues) when DH screamed 'you're just like your mother' in response to a meltdown I was having. Never an apology for getting it completely wrong. Still, my happy pills are making me
Less like my mother now so alls good.

One of the reasons I ended a relationship recently was this. My BF would have digs at me, under the guise of 'banter'. After one such remark, I became tearful.

Me: "That really made me feel shit"

Him: "why, I was only joking"

Me: "It wasn't funny, it's quite upset me. I'd like an apology"

Him: "I've nothing to apologise for"

So MY feelings weren't valid, and didn't count for anything.

If I upset someone inadvertently, I immediately apologise, without prompting. And yes, I've found women apologise far more than men in any given situation, not just in relationships. Internalised misogyny? Saying sorry is a sign of weakness?