DH and I have been married for 16 years, 2 children,. 14 and 16 years. My husband is from a different country and culture. He came to the UK shortly after we married.
Our marriage has endured many ups and downs including his tendency to resort to intimidation and violence when challenged and in an argument with me.
We have run a business together for 13 years and my role was part time home based. It has allowed me to always be around for our children and financially life has been good. For many years I've felt disappointed with the lack of affection and care in our marriage and his lack of interest in our family life. I simply felt he had no interest in me outside the services I provided to make his life easier. Those services were sex, housekeeping and cooking, translation and help with the business paperwork. My resentment of him had grown over the years until I insisted he leave which he did 2 months ago. Genie rents a lovely flat only 2 minutes down the road and sees the kids whenever he feels like it. He seems to be moving on at the speed of light and seems to be having a mid life crisis, taking out huge bank loans for a fancy BMW and complaining I was always too sensible with money. All I ever did was want the best for him and it's as if I now cease to exist. I'm utterly devastated and sadly I miss him more than I had ever imagined possible. I just wanted him to make an effort with our marriage and want to save our family not see it all go down the pan after 16 years. Him being 2 minutes down the riad is more than I can bear. How will I cope knowing he is virtually on my doorstep when there is another woman? I feel so sad and discarded like a bit of old rubbish. We have an apartment in his home country which I have citizenship of. It is mortgage free and nice. I speak the language quite well. If I moved there I wouldnt be forced to endure the heartache of seeing him. The real stumbling block is my children. I don't think they would want to come. He has alot more money than me and could keep them in the life they are used to.