heartbroken

[Tors33]

how long does it take to stop loving someone I was with him 6 yrs

What happened @Tors33?

It’s been 3 years for me, dated in between but haven’t really met anyone that compares.

Our relationship wasn’t great but I was young and didn’t know any better.

Saw him for the first time in those 3 years the other day and I could sense he was near before even seeing him so I’m not sure you’ll ever get fully “over” someone.

19 years and counting

I feel totally broken he is my world we got 3 children aged 2 3 4 and they keep asking for him I don't know what to say to them

Why did you split up?

I've never been heartbroken for long. If you think about why you split it makes sense. There is always a reason and don't I realise the relationship. See it for what it was and how he treated you. There are so many other men out there.

he doesn't want to be with me anymore we had an argument last night n he packed his bags n left
I just want to close my eyes and wake up when I'm over him

2 years and still not stopped, sorry no help!

From the very little information you have given us here, it sounds as if your DP has left out of the heat of the moment. Sometimes the arguments and pressures of the relationships get to much that you immediately need space so he leaves and later will regret it. It is only when they leave rationally and calmly after some time I think this is genuine. I would suggest sending a text asking him to come home, say your sorry and that you really want to work through your problems. If he does not contact you then he just needs time but I think he will come back. When he does, listen to him, hear out his views and what is wrong on his side. Ask him to do the same for you. I had problems in the past with my husband (then fiancee) and what made is nearly get to breaking point was the lack of understanding and allowing each other to communicate our issues openly and freely without judgement or cutting the other person off. I hope you guys work this out.

With the best will in the world, longer than 24 hours!

If you can’t solve your problems between you there’s every chance you’ll move on and live a happy life without him. It won’t happen instantly but it can happen.

If was devastated when my (albeit crappy) 12 year marriage ended. Within a few months I was dating and met my lovely DP.

Plenty of people do hang onto those feelings for the one that got away, but many more don’t.

That’s not your priority for now. You need to just take time to make sure this is what you both want (not that you can force him to come back if his minds made up, but you can talk it through) and then start to settle into your new reality. Moving on is for way down the line.