Child arrangement order - breach

[MumDD]

Dear all,
I need help!
After nearly 5 years of bullying from my ex-husband, I finally took the courage to apply for a non-molestation order and I got one.
I have also contacted the CMS and now receive child maintenance via them as my ex kept threatening to either reduce the sum or stop it altogether.
And I applied for a child arrangement order recently after years of my ex controlling me and doing whatever he wanted. My daughter (10) lives with me. He has messed me about with contact during weekends and holidays, impacting on my finances, job and health.
The order basically says my daughter lives with me and will spend alternated weekends and half of the holidays with her father. He deliberately did not attended court in neither of the two occasions and is now saying (via text) that he'll not comply with the court order.
This will impact on my job as I don't have much annual leave and we had already previously agreed on what we would do. But he's now messing me around.
My question is: can I reinforce the court order before it's breached? I have texts from my ex saying he'll not comply with any order.

Sadly no he cannot be forced to comply with the order. The resident parent must make the child available for contact, but the NRP cannot be forced to undertake contact.

Thank you for the message. I’m struggling to understand what’s the point of the child arrangement order? I’ve been reading a lot of messages saying it’s always breached and the judge will at best ‘tell the other parent off’.
My ex has also breached a consent order and owes me some money. He’s obviously refusing to pay and I fear that if I go back to court I’ll end spending even more money and nothing will happen.
I’m incredibly frustrated and tired. He has moved on but has stopped me from doing so.
I feel I’m being punished for ending an abusive relationship. Where’s the justice?

There isn't any. I do feel for you. My ex does see the children but with no consistency. I haven't been able to work in anything other than crappy jobs in the last 16 years because of no childcare. I'm bitter.