My marriage broke up after my husband had an affair with an Asian lady who he paid for at a bar abroad. He felt that he had fallen in love (she's 18 years younger and had dreams of living in "a place called London" !). Surprise, surprise, she became pregnant a couple of months into their relationship .
Long story short, exH is a mess. Looks miserable, and on several occasions has told our children that he was tricked into the pregnancy (that old chestnut!), cannot bond with the baby (now 18 months old), OW is a nutter and often locks him out of their flat, accuses him of having affairs and throws stuff at him when angry. She's also written to his secretary to accuse her of "fucking my boyfriend" (secretary is about 70 years old!).
The OW has in the past written to me and my children to tell my daughter she is "fucking lazy and should get a job and not rely on her father to give her money" and to my autistic son "you are ugly and have a face like your mother's. You are retarded and have no future".
Non of us have had the "pleasure" of meeting the OW (thank god!) however, exMIL keeps banging on about my kids meeting the baby and accepting him. They both know that it would not only hurt me deeply but they are still no over the trauma of their dad suddenly up and leaving after 24 years.
Ironically, ExMIL would never let my exH have a relationship with HIS half brothers. I really to tell them all to just fuck off. This is mess is not ours!
Thoughts?