I've been seeing someone for 4 weeks. He's lovely. I've had a shit time in past relationships so I've been keeping my eyes wide open for bad signs but honestly haven't identified a single one. He is constantly surprising me with his kindness and intelligence and wit which I can appreciate may be more of a reflection on how I've been treated in the past than actually making him some kind of saint. Nonetheless, we have a lot in common in terms of interests and values, and we have a good time together.
We've been seeing each other 3-4 times a week. A mix of proper dates & popping round to each other's places after work etc. Which brings me to my one and only concern. We DTD and while we were basking in the afterglow he looked me in the eyes and said he was in love with me. I didn't reply but I was happy.
Is this ok? Is it the Big Red Flag that says he might be a serial killer and I should have seen my inevitable murder coming my way? It's been so long since I've been in a new relationship that I don't know how all these things should feel. I can't help but wonder whether he is bad at distinguishing love from lust, whether he's too impulsive, or whether I'm trying to sabotage everything by looking for a big issue in something that isn't.