domestic violence

[Atps1967]

ok hi all im new here my problem is that i have bipolar and sometimes drink to block it out plus loads of attempts on my life . i can get verble to my wife as she can with me but she will turn violent to me kicking and punching . i do not hit back as i say i deserve it . im in a joint tenancy and cant leave as i would make my self homeless i have no friends to turn to as im a loaner .. she will tell her friends about me but never about her and what she dose she even stabbed a ex and says it was his fault . im not perfect in anyway . im under a psychiatrist for my illness .

I am so sorry.

Please read this article. There are some useful phone numbers. Get some help, please, your situation is terrible.

www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/help-for-men-who-are-being-abused.htm

Of you are in Britain you could also try citizen's advice.

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/

You could also talk to Samaritans.

They may not advise bit at least can listen

Need help? United Kingdom:
116 123
Samaritans
Hours: 24 hours, 7 days a week
Languages: English
Website: www.samaritans.org

Buy please do read that article.

i do not hit back as i say i deserve it
Nobody - and I mean NOBODY 'deserves' to be physically and violently assaulted - EVER!!!!!
This is toxic and you need to get away.
Please contact Mankind website here and they should be able to help you with an exit plan.
Do you have any family nearby?
Anyone you could turn to?
Don't worry about what she says to anyone about you.
Just get yourself away and out of this awful situation before it completely destroys you!!!!

100% agree with hellsbellsmelons no one deserves that. You do need to get away. Please contact Mankind
I think it is the same one I linked to in the article.

prob is iv contacted loads but .. even the council for re homing council took one look at me and thought i was the one being violent as im a man plus a body builder of 16s .. i dont go out much due to my illness and all i have is my bench and weights at home .. i lost my front door key but think it was took so i cant use the front door . she has 3 and told me to get my own but will not give me one to get cut .. also now she has took more hours at work so my ESA will stop due to us married and living in the same house hard to prove to DWP .. only time i can get out before key went was taking a lot of my meds .. by the way im 51 and shes 43 .. i did tell stepson to leave as he works and only paid £20 a week to his mum and never done anything in the house so im getting punished for him out the door . i can never put any rules down to him .. sorry too bleat on lol .

thank you for all your help i cant leave as i would be homeless as joint council tenancy.. so i have to hold on tight as housing will not help but back on the housing register now .

Do you have a support work or any form of community MH team support (or even an understanding GP)? Can you leave the house to speak to your GP, or literally can't get out as you can't get back in. Are you locked inside or does she lock the door after you have left?

im only under pyc but dont see him enough as hes got a lot on his list , i can get out the back door but only get out when shes not in . she is on the phone now belittling me to her friends as i sit here . plus when she got home she just argued with saying i wrong in all ways . i just tell her to leave it and get on with her own life she is wanting me too bite so she can get me off the tenancy . prob is im not biting which she hates lol . all she want is me to hit here then bang police out and me homeless . she asked me for my benift papers as universal credit need them so she gets paid , again tough im looking out for me only .