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Is it smart to share too much things on an internet board?

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Flyingfish2019 · 02/01/2019 11:33

In the past i have shared private stuff (mostly about problems in my marriage) on an internet board. Well it turned out that people on this board shared with other people on this board in private... behind my back... it has been a while but this and other things made me wonder if it is a good idea to share to much things on internet boards...
But who else do you talk to about your marriage?
Yes, I have name changed. New year, new name.
...and no, the Internet Board I am talking about is not MN.

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SantasBassoon · 02/01/2019 11:34

I think you've answered your own question.

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Flyingfish2019 · 02/01/2019 11:38

You think: No, it is not smart.
I think I agree, but I really do have nobody irl to discuss my marriage with and often feel that I need to.

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Flyingfish2019 · 02/01/2019 17:44

Bumps thread up

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DBML · 02/01/2019 18:47

It depends. Venting anonymously can be helpful at times. However, if there is a chance you give too much info away about who you are or if you are named e.g. on Facebook...then no, sharing information is not a great idea in any context.

rumred · 02/01/2019 18:50

It's tricky but objective advice is so useful isn't it
Just change a few irrelevant details (children's ages, area etc)?

Notacluethisxmas · 02/01/2019 18:59

Of course can you share too much.

I name change fairly often and change things that aren't important.

Notacluethisxmas · 02/01/2019 19:03

I am confused though.

Mners have been private messaging eachother, about you? How do you know?

And there has to have been a reason they did?
And if these are people that have read the thread here, what's the issue?

Or do they know you in RL?

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Flyingfish2019 · 04/01/2019 20:22

People on another board have been private messaging about me. It was not mn. I had told one woman (let’s call her A.) private things via pm... and she went and told other persons. I know because another person who had been friends with her (let’s call her B.) started disliking her and then she told me everything A. shared about my marriage with other poster via pm.
So other people have been gossiping about my marriage via pm thanks to A.
Thanks God I know none of them irl... but I still felt pretty stupid for ever trusting A.

Name changing and changing details are great ideas.

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