Can I just pack my bags and go?

[Greenbedsocks]

Or will I lose my rights to the financial side of things?
Married 16 years.
3 kids 20,19 and 17(turns 28 in June)
1 at uni, 2 at home but both off to uni Sept.
House owned outright in joint names.
20 thousand savings in my name.
After recovering from cancer 2 years ago I never went back to work full time. I'm now employed zero hours and average 40hours a month at the moment.

It's do bad at home. I can't cope. There is no respect for each other. He has cheated repeatedly for st least 11 years. Broken promises over and over. I dont know nor care if hes shagging one of his service station hook ups in the back of the family car any more. I just feel resentment not hurt.
I'm currently Sat in a car park in my car. I cannot bare to be at home. He is so pasd8ve aggressive. Sly nasty comments. He dtirmed in the lounge with the kitchen bi estlier shouting at me to help him whilst o was on the phone to my sister. Its jyst do disrespectful. Today is the first day I've bummed around watching tv and doing very little after entertaining constantly since Xmas eve. I cooked a ham etc but still he's being vile as I try to relax.
I feel so tense at home. Im findingvmyswlf sat innlaybys and carparks ceying in my car more and more often as i just cannot cope with the oppressive amd negative atmosphere at home.
So my plan is to just go. I know where there are some cheap rental properties nearby. I could use my savings ro live off for a few months whilat finding full time employment.
Just wanted to know if I do this if there are any legal implications I need to be aware of.

In your shoes I'd leave. Immediately. Do the kids still living at home know what is going on? If not, how are you going to broach it with them.

Next step - get some legal advice. I don't see how moving out will affect your rights but I'm not an expert.

I’m a solicitor. Moving out doesn’t affect any of your rights to a financial settlement. It sounds like you need to leave for your own emotional well-being. You deserve better than this

I left due to domestic violence. I didn’t lose any rights to what was legally my share.

It's usually advised you stay in the house, but you would really need to take legal advice on it. I think eventually you'd be able to force a sale and get your share but it might draw it out. It might be worth the risk for your mental health no matter what, anyway. Why not book a legal appointment tomorrow and set a divorce in motion right away?

I would seek legal advice ASAP before doing anything like moving out.

What has finally made you decide to leave given his repeated cheating behaviour over the years?, I would think your children have been all too aware of how bad things are and have been . This is patently not what you want to teach them about relationships

I discovered cheating 10 years or so ago.
He was so say sorry. All promises and a fresh startetc. Everything was ok I thought (although never quite the same for me tbh- always felt tainted after that).
We ticked along nicely or so I thought until the day he forgot to meet me at the hospital. It was the day they told me i had cancer. Something just didn't sit right. 2 weeks later I did lots of digging and found years of digital messages going back to a few months after his initial indiscretion. He was on hook up sites.
I just buried it for a year or so as I went in hospital for operations and started treatment.
Eventually it came out in a massive argument 2 or 3 years ago.
It seemed easier at the time (god knows why now looking back) - maybe sheer exhaustion and not having the strength to face anymore upheaval. And here I am today regretting it wishing i had dealt with it differently.

Kids know it's shit but are also busy with their own lives so I don't know how bad they thinkni realise it actually is.
My middle "child" has certainly expressed disapproval of how he acts at home sometimes.