DH Suspicious Behaviours

[PotterMummy3]

Evening all, my DH is starting to make me question him, not directly but in my mind. He is always on his telephone, goes out for drives or to do errands, sending messages all through the night, working very long hours and having nights away with work and friends. Do you think I should question him? He will not show me his phone and when I've said I'm unhappy with things he tries to gaslight me.

It does sound as though he’s in affair territory OP.

Too mAny red flags there

Well, if he wont show you his phone, I very much doubt that questioning him is going to get you any answers. I think if it was me, I would have to try and find some concrete evidence before I confronted him.

Do you know the friends he goes away with? Do they have partners? Could you find out from their partners if they have actually been away with your husband?? Does he normally work long nights or has this started to happen recently?

This sounds very suspicious, is there any way of you checking up if he actually is away with work or friends?

The long nights working, texting etc are all giveaways in my opinion.

It’s like a checklist for cheaters.

Sorry, I think you need to start getting clever and find out a bit more before making him panic and cover his tracks. Don’t ask him outright, play it cool, get your ducks in a row in case you need to get him out (make sure you know where all important documents and paperwork are etc, have a fund or apply for a credit card so you’re financially ok if he tries to fuck you over) and then start sleuthing. Cover your tracks so he doesn’t twig.

Really sorry OP like others have said it's classic behaiviour of someone that is having an affair.

Do what ragingwhorebag says... check bank statement, check satnav, look for receipts etc

Do you have an old iPhone...buy a new cheap sim for it and track the old phone (find my iPhone app) from your own phone by putting the old phone in his car fully charged on silent....viola you can now track your husband

He is always on his telephone,

I have been on mine most of the day!

goes out for drives or to do errands,

I do this.

sending messages all through the night

I'm on Mumsnet, just text my friend too,

working very long hours

I do this**

and having nights away with work and friends

I also do this

I'm not having an affair. If DH asked me to show him my phone I would be a bit

But this is Mumsnet where he will defo be a cheat and you should get your ducks in a row and LTB.

viola you can now track your husband

Seriously, if you are at that stage in a relationship, just leave.

It's not so much what they do with regard to phones, trips, drives etc., but a change in patterns of behaviour. You could tell him that you're a bit concerned about these changes and that you're going away for a fortnight to decide what to do next, as it's all making you suspicious and uncomfortable. Then take it from there.

Tell him you are leaving as you arent a mug and things aren't working out. Then see his reaction.
Explain you have noticed a change in his behaviour and it takes 2 to work at a rship and you are not his sister or his flatmate you are his partner and if he can't commit time to your relationship then there is no point being together anyway. Thats regardless if wether he is cheating or not. Rships take 2