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Sons visiting Dad’s new flat for first time..

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Dietcoke131 · 01/01/2019 20:08

Hello,

My son’s aged 4 and 2 years old are going to visit their Dad’s new flat for the first time... any advice on what to expect or how to support them with this??? Would really appreciate hearing how other people handled this type of situation.

Many thanks...

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LemonSqueezy0 · 01/01/2019 20:31

Chances are they will be full of beans and excited so allow them to be, and talk about it how they want, without pumping them for info. Hopefully they'll have a nice time.

Are you worried about anything specific?

WhoPooped · 01/01/2019 20:33

I’m a bit confused... what are you worried about?

whatsthepointthen · 01/01/2019 20:37

Also not sure, is there
more to it?

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Dietcoke131 · 01/01/2019 20:51

No, no more to it other than they are so young and literally I don’t know which way it will go... so far my 4 year old has been excited new adventure etc, then manic - has daddy got food in his house? Has daddy got blankets in his house? etc, then today was.. Daddy’s been a bit naughty getting his own house without us... not even asking us to go with him...

Obviously 100% support them in whatever way they need me to, it’s not about me or my emotions anymore... they are going through it now so just want to my best to help prepare them or reassure them they still have a loving family regardless of living arrangements...

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whatsthepointthen · 01/01/2019 21:11

They will be fine

WhoPooped · 01/01/2019 22:08

I really think you’re overthinking this.
They’ll be fine as long as you act fine, if you act anxious it’ll rub off on them

OldPosterNewUsername · 01/01/2019 22:10

Are you sure that you aren't putting your feelings onto your kids?

"Daddy's been naughty getting a house without us", from a 4 year old???

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Dietcoke131 · 01/01/2019 22:42

He didn’t actually say it to me, he said it to his auntie, my (ex) sister in law just randomly on a long trip in the car..

I’m here for advice how to support them in going through the transition to having two homes? There’s no other issue here apart from it’s something I’ve never dealt with before so reaching out as most people around me haven’t got children...

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ourkidmolly · 01/01/2019 23:09

Perhaps your ex could send a few pics through so they can prepare that way. Just keep reassuring them that you both love them so much and that this is exciting but it's ok to be nervous too.

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Dietcoke131 · 02/01/2019 18:18

Thank you, that is really good practical idea... 👍🏻

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RoseOfSharyn · 02/01/2019 18:47

I know a few children of similar ages who have been through this, including my own. We talk about how cool it is and how lucky they are that they have 2 houses!
'most people only have 1, so how awesome that you get to have 2! 2 bedrooms to decorate how you like, 2 sets of toys, 2 families that love you sooooo much!' That kind of thing.

At that age they are far more resilient than we give them credit for. They will be fine.

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Dietcoke131 · 03/01/2019 14:02

Your right... they was fine, totally excited, so so relieved... I must have just been over thinking things!! X

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