Not committed enough to support hubbies football club?

[mummyjules8]

So my 8 year old is football mad...and I usually stay home with my 5 year old whilst he goes with his dad...which is fine...we have a nice time just me and the 5 year old...

But in the future I was hoping to go as a family. I havent really been a football supporter before but played in a ladies team for a bit and do enjoy the sport when its England and going to the odd match...

But my husband is saying I am not committed...not passionate like him...and never will be...kind of putting me off it. I had an opportunity to go with my dad and 8 year old but hubbie says it’s not worth the 2 hour drive cos I am not a proper fan.

Why do I feel so crap about this? Should I just get over it and do more of my own hobbies?

I reckon he likes the current set up - taking the older (easier?) child out and leaving you with the younger one. Go to the match, enjoy it. And I always cringe when people want to declare how they’re a ‘proper fan’, so wanky.

Thanks! Yeah I think thats probably it.

mummyjules8 he's being an arse because he doesn't want you to start going for some reason. His real reason might be quite sweet - really living the 1:1 with dc1, or it might be misogynistic (is dc1 a boy and dc2 a girl?) Or lazy (is dc2 harder work?) Or just because he wants something that's his thing not yours... Whatever it is most reasons would be better than saying you don't meet some standard of fandom he's invented therefore don't deserve to go That just makes him sound a pure and simple prat.

Does he apply these standards to everything or just fandom...

Yeah, I presumed the second child was female too.

I wasn't a "proper" fan when I started going to football with my Dad at the age of 28 but I quickly became one and in fact superceded my Dad in terms of commitment. You never know how things might pan out.

Bollocks to that. He takes the kids to football. You do your own thing. Has anyone ever heard of a man giving up his weekends to go to something his female partner’s interested in?

Boys my kids are boys. So one day they will all be off no doubt, unless I join in. I guess I just need to make the decision of whether I want to or not.
He is also a “superfan” of a couple of bands...pink floyd and and Richard Ashcroft, but I am happy to sit those out ha ha!!!

I like having interests that are separate from my partners. After all we are individuals as well as a couple. It annoys me when he tries to get involved in my stuff because it feels fake and he can take or leave it. Whereas for me it's much more important than that. And he loves fishing. Meh!

My husband and I are big football supporters (support different teams 😬) we have banter but he would never say he is a bigger supporter

But why do you want to do this? If you haven’t had any particular previous interest in football, are you only doing it for the sake of ‘family’ outings?

Your husband does sound like a prat. That ‘you’re a lightweight newbie unless you supported them through the double relegation of 1947/have the instrumental double LP limited edition from 1976’ is very tiresome and juvenile.

Thanks all...good to get a few different opinions but seems to be a consensus that dh’s behaivour was rubbish. Will have a chat with him I think, and sort it out.

What football team Is it OP?

Sorry if u think that questioned seemed a bit outing it's just I'm quite familiar with a lot of football grounds and was goi f to suggest perhaps some family stuff you could tie alongside a trip to the stadium as it's two hrs away?

Yeah I must admit I did get a bit paranoid since my name is already revealed!!! It is a match at Derby!

my friend used to hate football until she had three boys and started going with them. The whole family now have season tickets and she loves it.

Ha we are playing Derby on Saturday!!