We are "DONE"

[Antiskeptic]

2005 to now - we're done. 13 years of my life down the swanney! Me, ds 16, DP of 14 years, dd 8 years, living together 11 years, mortgage together 4.5 years, engaged 4 years (I'm the commitment-phobe).I've just asked the questions, and gotten the answers. Were done! Because I dont "show" love in words. Love shown in actions doesn't count! Apparently! I put 50k + 50% of mortgage payments into our home, hes put 50% of mortgage payments in. Joint Dd is 8. I'm saying, buy me out at 50k (my inheritance towards house purchase) + 50% mortgage payments, he's saying 50% mortgage + 100k. I just told him tonight, hes the love of my life (true). But, in light of his reveal (I'm drunk, not correct wording), I'm fucking hurt. Advice and guidance please MN??!I'm hurting and not one to show it normally, hence my "incognito" post here.

I'm sorry you are going through this.
You need to sober up for a start- drunk before midday and with a young child around is not a good combination.
Stop drinking and go and sleep it off then see if you can come to some sort of amicable arrangement.

Are you in a different timezone?

Are your children being looked after by someone else?

Tbf the 8 year old might be in bed asleep and her DP might not be drinking or might not be as inebriated as OP.

Posted this last night, didn't realise it hadnt actually posted. Woke up this morning and feels like the bottom has fallen out of my world. My children are in my mums as dp and I had arranged to go out to meet friends last night. This bolt from the blue came when we got home. Not really sure where to go from here.

Casmama this was originally posted last night on another thread so I'm not sure if the op had been actually drinking this morning.

Of course you are hurt. It sounds as if his answer is definite. What practical steps can you take now? Have you a close friend you can talk to? What about some counselling to get you through this early stage? I'm sorry you are going through this. Breakups usually are painful.

**engaged 4 years (I'm the commitment-

^Why won’t you marry him? That would be a red flag for me

Why did this come out last night ? What’s the trigger for doing it NOW ? I’d look for an OW ...

Agree with Lilybetsy 🙁