First time here and I don't really understand the lingo, but here goes.
Married for 4.5 years, together for 7. We have a4 year old daughter and desperately want another baby-have been trying for years. I never feel like having sex but force myself to do it every other day for 10 days around my ovulation period.
Anyway, feel like my marriage is a shambles and just need to express all the things that are happening to get some clarity as to what the hero is going on, is my husband abusive, am i controlling and are we better together o'r apart?!
So, in light of the start of a new year I want to try to start afresh and just state what is going on with us from this point forward. If you have any advice, encouragement, insight I'd appreciate it... If not, then writing it here will give me some much needed clarity.
New Year's Day 2019, 7:20am. After a late night DS is still sleeping as am I. DH wakes me up saying "Are you taking the dog out today? You need to take the dog out more, you've hardly taken her out over Christmas" I as answered then started to go back to sleep. DH says "aren't you ovulating? Comet on we need to have sex" I answer "I never get more than 5 hours sleep and you've just woken me up for no reason. Please let me sleep!" DH says "can you sleep in the spare room?" I answered no and asked him to let me sleep in my own bed and told him not to be selfish. He then starts to argue with me, telling me that he's had a shit Christmas, that he always has to do what I want and starts playing videos loudly on his iPad. With my eye mask on I try to sleep and ask him to not be cruel. After I ask him to use his ear phones he gets out of bed, goes to the spare room and tells me how selfish I am and says he is not coming to see MY friends with me today.
I don't want to state my opinion as I would like the facts only too speak for themselves. Do I speak with him about this later or do I let it lie and try to start the day more positively when we all get up?!