Just left my oh!

[justleftthebastard]

What a horrible way to start the new year!

Asked him to show me some pictures he took of the kids earlier refused to show me them I eventually gave up and went upstairs to bed. Followed me up carried on arguing snatched my wig of my head (I have alopecia) carried on fighting me holding me down on the bed by my neck grabbed my head and hit it up the tv.

I've just packed up me and the kids and sat at the bus stop for an hour he wouldn't let me have my car ended up getting a taxi. So we're at my mums now got no where to sleep for me and the kids. He came to my mums before I got here and fed her lies and took the spare key so I can't go back to get my dog or the kids clothes.

Where do I even go from here?

Call the police and report the assault. Arrange for an officer to accompany you to get some things. Get legal advice. If they arrest him, use that time to get an emergency locksmith. Good call getting away asap. Your safety is the most important thing.

What ISmellBabies said.

You'll get through this.

He sounds vile.

[fowler]

Hugs to you OP, you're incredibly brave and absolutely have done the right thing.

Call the police and have him arrested. Use the time to get your things. Don't forget passports, birth certificates etc.

Call the police. Whether or not they arrest him they should be able to facilitate you going back safely to collect your things.

Transfer any of your funds which are held jointly back to your sole account.

Speak to victim support about emergency housing and any other support you can access.

Good luck

I can't get back to the house only bought some pyjamas and one outfit for the kids didn't bring anything for myself.

Don't want to involve the family police really complicates things to much I just want to be able to move on.

Hate him so bloody much can't believe I made the same mistake twice

At least you're in a safe place now which is most important. Try to get some rest when you can.⚘

Are you on the mortgage? In which case you can break in. He cannot refuse you entry. Try to rest tonight, go and get your stuff tomorrow. Best to get a mate (big burly bloke) to accompany you.

When you have on paper via the police /other channels you will find the strength to end this. Papering over /not being honest with those who love you will keep you going back to him. You deserve more. So do your dc. And the poor ddog who is stuck there tonight.

Please call the police he deserves it, he assaulted you!

This is dreadful for you. Get as much support as you can. Dont worry about him his family etc. Just focus on DCs and you and getting safe.Good luck

We were renting it's in his name though so can't do anything. Feel much happier at my mums though I can finally breathe.

Got a bit of a headache since he hit my head against the tv worth going to A&E?

Police police police and minor injuries unless your ears are bleeding? How can he keep your car is it in your name?

Please listen to the others,
POLICE
A&E
Get the physical violence on record NOW it will make many other things easier to handle, legal aid and child residence issues.
POLICE PLEASE.

What everyone above said, ignore you don’t involve the police he could make allegations against you. Will he fight a legal battle for the kids? If so and you haven’t reported this you may have a less strong case for custody, he could make out you lied

Should say if not ignore...

OP why do you not want to include the police? Are you scared of him?
I'd advice ringing women's aid. They can point you in the right direction and may even be able to direct you to the council. Would you expect a refuge, as this is domestic violence

Sorry should say accept

OP, are you worried about social services? Trust me they will understand more if you are open and honest now and go to the police, you will be showing you want to protect them

Police and A&E, get it documented.

Also, police help to get your car and belongings.

OP are you ok?

I don't know really starting to feel down a bit now got no clothes for myself. Dd needs nappies and the nearest shop that is open is 3.5 miles going to have to suck it up and walk.

The car is in his name I sold my car and put it towards that car and he put half in he does have his own car though. Huge mistake really I should of had it put in my name. So I have lost thousands!

I rang the police before and they did nothing I'd rather just not bother I just want to get my things and move on. They will only ask him a few questions and let him go again.

Also social service involvement I don't want that happening.

It doesn't matter if they don't do anything at least it will be on record if you ever had to go to family court or get a restraining order. I know you must feel broken atm I've been there but you must stand up to him. You can't let him take everything that is yours. What use is your clothes and the kids going to be to him. Maybe ask the police to escort you or get a friend to go with you so you're not alone

You poor thing op! I'm glad you managed to get out. The police will do something if he assaulted you.

What a twat he is!

Call the police!
Omfg!
You need that logged as he will also have unsupervised access to the children! What if he flips on them? Or another women when he has a new gf?

I may get flamed but you have a responsibility now for your children and others as you know he’s violent and this needs to be recorded.
I’ve had to do it before in a previous relationship and no it doesn’t complicate things. Not filing a report WILL complicate things!