Mother issues- time to cut her out

[Mummabookfan]

Subject seems harsh but my mum is mentally draining. She's nasty and never says anything positive.criticising my parenting constantly though my own upbringing was awful.she only makes an effort with my daughter not my son. I always have to say 'well what about him too?' Has anyone cut their own mum out of their life? She's done so much to hurt me id be here all night writing it

Don't want to read and run.

Currently expecting first child so can't relate to how your mum treats your kids, but I did cut my dad from my life (and stepmother) as they treated my sister so abhorrently.

Got married this year and had another close family walk me down the aisle instead, and didn't think to invite dad or stepmom. Worried I would regret this decision, however so far no regrets - just relief!

Hope the situation improves for you soon, however you choose to resolve it x

Coming up 3 months now and I am feeling so much better. I'm lucky I have a caring supportive partner because the shit she says and does still messes with me as she's been doing it for so long it's hard to remember she has issues not me. Plus Christmas Eve she decided to tell the world I'm dead to her now.
She favours my eldest more than my middle ds but cause of their ages I can't prevent their contact - which adds to get still trying to upset me.
Be strong and remember your parents aren't meant to hurt you and it isn't normal even if it seems so because it's all you know

I’ve gone very low contact

We speak on what’s app when she asks to see my kids and that’s it

It’s wonderful

I am NC with three parents. MIL, DF and DSM. All for various reasons out of the same Narc box. The relief has been intense. This is the best my mental health has been since I was 15. MIL was the most recent and my husbands decision. I tried for 5 years to make a relationship work with her for the sake of my kids but she proved to have nothing stable to offer them. And at the end of the day it's the DC that matter.

She treated me awful as a child and continued to do so during my early adult life. Eventually I went NC with my mum for over 6 years and it was blissful. We reconnected in summer 2018 and although it's been great so far, I'm still very wary of her. She's been a brilliant grandmother to my DC but was an absolutely awful mother to me in the years when I needed motherly love and support.😐

I have no contact with my Mother and have not had contact for over 15 years. The absolute best decision I have ever made in my life. She has not met my children and will never meet them. A Mum is the one person in your life you are supposed to be able to rely on. She let me down massively.