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Would you?

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pinkpixie83 · 31/12/2018 15:33

If you found out someone you met on a dating site and had a few dates with was either still with his partner or back with her would you confront him?

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Singlenotsingle · 31/12/2018 15:34

No. I'd just dump him

HollowTalk · 31/12/2018 15:35

I'd send him a pretty harsh message, but wouldn't confront him face to face.

Over50andfab · 31/12/2018 15:35

Yes - or block him on all media. Depends on the situation really.

Bigonesmallone3 · 31/12/2018 15:36

I wouldn't turn it in to an issue but I'd probably say something!

'Let's hope this time it works out eh! Cya'

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pinkpixie83 · 31/12/2018 15:38

I'm going to try and see if a friend will create an account to see if he's still on the site for a start

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pinkpixie83 · 31/12/2018 15:38

I'm pretty hurt actually

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NameChangeNugget · 31/12/2018 15:40

No, he’s not worth the time or the energy.

Travisandthemonkey · 31/12/2018 16:19

I would just let it go. It’s really not worth it.
Unless you’re going to tell the wife, which is a debatable thing to do.

Loveneedslove · 31/12/2018 16:26

How did you find out?

Hazlenutpie · 31/12/2018 16:26

Just walk away and move on.

BaconPringles · 31/12/2018 16:50

I would Grin

NotSureThisIsWhatIWant · 31/12/2018 17:37

Frankly, there is some satisfaction in confronting a cheater but to be honest by doing so the only thing you are doing is giving him the opportunity to convince you he has been in a sexless marriage and poor him, his wife is not paying attention to him since she is devoted to the children so he needs to branch out to find the support he so much needs, which translates as I’m bored with homelife, I can’t stand the children more than a few minutes on the weekends and my wife is a resentful bitch because I prefer to pretend to be working to avoid helping at home and to have time to spend time with you pretending to be single.

I would be more tempted to ghost him, he has lied enough to you and will continue doing so if you give him the opportunity to talk about it.

ChristmasFluff · 31/12/2018 20:34

Nope, would ghost him. He's not worth an explanation, and he certainly doesn't deserve a moment more of my time.

Remember, narcs and socios love drama. To just disappear pisses them right off, far more than giving them a piece or your mind They would most love you to contact the wife/gf. But ignoring is what they can't take. They might even stalk you to try to create more drama - keep calmly calling the Police if so - do not engage with them

FrenchSchnoodle · 31/12/2018 20:36

I know myself and I know that i would want to and probably would but generally ignoring and or blocking is better

SuperSuperSuper · 31/12/2018 21:12

Are you very sure? What is your source of info? Bear in mind that some people don't update their social media promptly. I was one of them - still had pics of me and exDH weeks after he left, just didn't get round to deleting them.

Closetbeanmuncher · 31/12/2018 21:48

Dump and block.

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