I want to leave but don’t know where to start

[LetsGo2019]

After 9 years I feel trapped and like I’m living a half life. 4 children involved. He’s a selfish, lazy, arrogant person who I can’t spend another 9 years with.
I need advice on housing/money/kids. I’m scared but I have to do this and make 2019 a turning point for me and the children. Please help!

Is he abusive or controlling?
Do you have access to money?
Do you have family you can call on for help?
Do you know about what money there is?
Savings?

Assets?

I’d get advice from citizens advice / solicitor on where you stand in relation to house and your finances so you can plan your future.

You haven't really given us enough information OP.

I’m not currently working at the moment but he is, so I don’t have any money of my own really apart from the child benefit I get for the kids.
We receive universal credit as my partner isn’t on a big wage. This is a one of my worries because what happens to that when a couple splits?
Regarding housing, we live in a council house which he is the main tenant for. I would love to just kick him out but I know he won’t go, so it’s up to me to find somewhere to move to. If I was to move in to a private rented house, would this affect me applying for a council house in my own name?
I have lots of family support who will be very understanding as they know what he is like.
No savings or assets.

He’s very emotionally abusive and can also be physically abusive towards me if he’s tired and/or had a drink the night before. I’ve had enough of him.

I’ve been looking back at all the absolute SHIT he has put me through over the years and I remember dinstinctly the first time he showed his true colours. He called me fucking stupid when I was making a night feed for our eldest when he was a baby. All of these early warning signs should have been enough to get me out of there but I kept convincing myself that he was ok because of his charm when he was in a good mood and how nice he could be.
Oh he’s put me through so much I can’t even begin to write it all down. There is so much

Yes. It's easier if you have access to money and can rent a place. Stay with family while you are looking.

My family won’t have us stay. My dad and stepmum won’t like their quiet life being affected (can’t blame them really). But will help me move stuff and I’m sure my dad would help financially temporarily.

OK then.
You have 4 calls to make on Wednesday.
Womens Aid
Shelter
CAB
Council

You need to get away and they help you.
While you are making calls, Rights of Women may also be able to help you.
Well done on recognising you need to get away.
Now it's time to take action.