Seeing Matrimonial Lawyer tomorrow.........any help?

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I desperately want a divorce from my ex and thought he'd have started proceedings by now as I have a bf and he could take me for adultery. Anyway, he hasn't so I'm going tomorrow to start the ball rolling.
The reason the marriage ended was lack of intimacy so I'm going to have to really open up and tell all. I didn't want to have to do this but he'd be happy to wait for years.
I've already had a preliminary meeting with a legal exec and she seemed more interested in how much money I was going to get.
Any information on what I'm to expect would be much appreciated
TIA

You don't have to go into any detail at all really. if you haven't been separated long enough to just go with that, go with unreasonable behaviour & say he was 'emotionally unavailble' or 'worked long hours' or 'said unkind things' or 'was ungenerous with his money'. Divorce isn't an exam you can fail really, or a trial, the assumption is, if you think the marriage is over, it's over.
The money bit is much more important.

thanks aloha. Just had a phone call from the lawyer saying they can't represent me as there's too much of a conflict. My ex is a solicitor and knows the senior partner so he's obviously said I can't go there Trouble is my ex will know partners in all the fecking firms in town!! I don't have transport so can't easily travel. I'm so annoyed.

Nightmare! I suppose you just have to ring round. After the initial meeting I would say nearly all of the rest can be done over the phone or in letters.

I know it is a nightmare. Just been talking to another mumsnetter and she did it herself so may consider this as a last resort?

Oh forgot to say, the partner wanted to represent me yesterday and I said no and that's why they got this out of town one to ring me. He's obviously seen his arse about me not wanting him methinks