Am I overreacting?

[Sweetpotato92]

I currently live with my boyfriend and we have been together for just under two years.

I need some advice as I can’t decide whether I’m overreacting or not. Bf has a habit of pinching me randomly, slapping my leg and bum really hard. I don’t mind a light slap on my bum in jest. But sometimes when he does it I can feel it sting for ages afterwards. I get very upset and tell him to stop and although he says sorry, he keeps repeating the behaviour. He also makes comments about ‘slapping me’ and other things but when I pull him up on it he just says ‘he’s joking’. I honestly can’t tell if I’m over reacting and I don’t really know what to do.

I'd take it as mucking around. If he's doing it playfully it wouldn't bother me. You've told him, he's apologised.

Er what? That’s probably the worst “advice” I have ever read on here.

You are NOT over reacting.
Trust your gut.
This isn't normal or nice.
You've told him repeatedly you don't like it and he continues.
That shows a total lack of respect for you!
I think it's ultimatum time.
If he does it once more then you are over.
Does he have other abusive or controlling traits?

My husband of 25 years does a similar thing to me. Always patting and pinching my bum. I hate it. I tell him to stop and he stops for a while but starts again. I tell him again and he stops again. It's like he can't help it. But I keep telling him and I will keep telling him. He means no harm but I do hate it.
Keep telling him to stop. If you don't like it you shouldn't put up with it.
X

He’s apologised but he hasn’t STOPPED has he? Should OP, keep explaining and requesting her boyfriend doesn’t keep HURTING her forever? Please ignore that advice OP.

You’re not overreacting OP. Next time he does it walk out. Whenever you are, whatever you are doing, just leave and tell him why. That’s only if you want to give this disgusting bully another chance that it because personally I wouldn’t.

This is abuse, done under the guise of a 'joke'.

Start twisting his balls op. Then smile say sorry and repeat.
He is a twat.

Thank you all for your replies, it’s a relief to know I’m not making this all up in my head/going crazy.

I know that I don’t want to have children/get married etc if he’s doing this because what if he started doing this children.

I probably sound like every cliché, it’s just so hard when someone tells you they love you and you’re their world but I guess actions speak louder than words. X

With regards to other behaviour, when we’ve had arguments in the past he can get very loud, lots of ‘f off, f you’. But that’s all I can think of x

You are not overreacting, in fact you are massively underreacting.
Pinching and slapping you is physical abuse (it doesn't matter where on your body he is hitting you, the fact is he is hitting you!). You've told him to stop and he hasn't under the guise that it's just 'a joke' which is total bullshit he obviously likes hurting you plus he's made comments about slapping you , massive red flags are waving here Sweetpotato. He's also verbally abusing you saying "fuck off" and "fuck you". You need to figure out why you're putting up with abuse from this person and get yourself out of this relationship before he follows through on his comments and moves from slapping you hard across the bum to hard across the face.

And you're right that actions speak louder than words. It's easy to say to someone that you love them but if the actions don't back that up then it's a lie.

Knee him in the balls and tell him you were 'just joking'.

He's horrible. Will you continue to put up with it?