Is it too soon..

[mandy151]

Hi. Could I ask for some opinions please. I have been separated from my husband since may. A friend of mine who is male and whom I get on well with asked me if I'd like to go for a drink this evening. I would like to but I think if my stbx found out he would go mad even though he is on dating sites himself. Is it too soon to accept his invite for a drink

Also discussing your ex partner with friends is neither slander nor EA, he will lose in court over both counts if it even gets there.

He just hates the thought of anyone knowing he is anything but a good person as he is so charming to everyone he meets. I'm sure they can prob see tru the bullshit tho as my family has and always have done but never said it to me as they thought I was happy. He is a compulsive liar and thief and I have caught him out on so many different incidences...how dare he look at private messages to my friends who are supporting me tru the separation as I have be so sad and needed to talk tru A lot of the harassment and bullying he has put me tru since splitting up in may. He thinks he owns me as we are married and has the right to control me. I am naturally a soft hearted person so I'm finding this whole process so difficult. And I'd say he can't believe I haven't given in by now and he is so angry he is losing control over me.

Keep talking here and reading here. There is lots of help and advice and it sounds like you need it!
You really need to break this man's attempt to control you. You need help with this and I think Women's Aid and/or the police would be appropriate. Are any of his threats in writing, for instance? I'm pretty sure a threat to break legs is taken seriously by the police. I know it is truly frightening but you must start to break this fear of him. Good luck.

Oh and please password/PIN/fingerprint protect your phone and any other device you use and never give him access, ever.