What closure message would you most want this NYE?

[2019me]

If you could receive any message from anyone who would it be and what would it say?

I have two. A family member who is not speaking to me reaching out to say happy new year. And a man I know just saying happy new year at all as then I’d know he was thinking of me.

What are yours?

From HMRC
"aww no bother"

olikingcharles similar situation here. I dumped him in the end. They Don't deserve our love. I grief for what I wanted it to be but not him.
Good luck x

Well done, @Mikethenight2good far better a short sharp pain than a long drawn out ache.

I think "shape up or ship out" is a good message to send to these hot/cold men. They get away with it because they are allowed to.

No message from anybody. I bring my own closure. I've learned that the hard way. I refuse to wait for people to do what I think they ought to do anymore; it's entirely selfish.

None. Me too I do my own closure. I used to feel quite helpless about not getting it but my cold dark heart is now very shrivelled

TBH I am sick of people trying to get around me. Like my father

There is someone if like to get a message from. And if like it to say, "you're right, I never loved you. At least not in any way that mattered".

That would make life so much easier for me.

I can think of a few people I’d like to hear from. All I want to hear from all of them is “I’m sorry”. I doubt I’ll be so fortunate.

For the people who are struggling to accept my new relationship after separating from my husband to give their approval.
I know the circumstances aren't ideal but we're happy.

I want my ex to leave me alone and just be a father to our children. 10 years I put up with him and still I continue to be hounded by his pathetic ass.

Guess the grass isn't that green for him after all.

that would be great , call anytime ?

I don't think I need any message or words. Their actions have said everything I need to know.

I had to bring myself my own closure last night.
I had dreamt and fantasised that I would get a message over the Christmas/New Year period. Saying he was sorry and that he missed me.
It never happened, and I knew deep down he wouldn't.
Last night I ripped up a load of stuff, blocked on social media (at midnight, how poetic!) and sipped a load of Prosecco and promised myself I would leave the relationship in 2018.
I feel ok today. I cannot change the past, but I have acknowledged my part and accepted I will never see or hear from him again. Or that he will ever acknowledge to me his part in our demise.
That is my closure. Like PP's, my cold heart now knows it must protect and heal itself. No one else is going to do that.

Seems so many of us are in similar positions. Especially with people who blow hot and cold.

I didn't hear from the person I wanted to and sent a message but only received a per-functionary reply. I replied to that then nothing from them which hurt a little but also serves me right. Then it made me angry at him for being so friggin unreliable all the time.

I think I'm done now. I'm done with never knowing the way things are going to be and it always blowing hot and cold.

At least the new year can be a new start to enable us to move on I hope.

I'm in the same boat with hot/cold guy... promised myself that 2019 would bring a man worth my effort so that's what I'll be looking for!

Onwards and upwards, no matter how much we like them they're never gonna be worth our time

Hi ladies,

I only dumped the twerp last weekend. First few days I was quite low. But yesterday I realised I wasn't so stressed out and anxious to see whether he got in touch especially when I picked up my phone. He had way to much control over my emotions.
Do it ladies. Rip that plaster off. And tell them to F@!$ off.

I wanted to hear from a friend I care about very much but they didn’t get in touch.
I broke two weeks of no contact, instigated by him, between Christmas and Nye. We had a brief text chat, he said it was nice to hear from me and told me some sad news which I now can’t stop thinking about. It would’ve been easier if I’d not contacted him at all and I feel sad all over again and he’s now on my mind even more. I’m such a fool.