dh's facebook search history shows him searching for one specific woman (looks under 24) 5 times from july 2017 to dec 2018 (so once every few months).
They have no mutual friends or connection according to fb and i don't know if she works with him. She is pretty. Looks like me when I was younger and slimmer..so definitely his usual type. Couldn't find any messages on whatsapp or text or messenger to show he is talking to a woman. He may have a second phone, as he brought one a few months back and said it's work's.
I am suspiscious because he has been:
- disinterested in sex for 3+ years when in the begining his libido was very high. He now watches porn every single day so i know he is masturbating and so not a general loss of libido. Sorry a bit gross but his searches and video history of 100+ about anal sex. I never have nor would I want to do that. He asked me for it several times and I refused. I'm just not interested.
- taps the 'back' button whenever I enter the room or come close in order to close whatever screen he is on.
- hides the screen when I'm close by turning his body and shoulder away from me
- works late or comes home late (by late I mean 2 hours late not long eough for a date plus he comes home looking scruffy and smelly)
Why I think i'm being paranoid:
- he is very scruffy and unhygienic, he got worse in terms of taking care of himself
- I know his phone lock and passwords, he keeps his phone laying around and lets me use it.
- he isn't very tech savvy to delete history and all that although I showed him once how to select which history data to delete (very easy).
He had crushes before and so did i. I think it's normal as been together 15 years. The difference is we laughed about it and were open about it. This time he never mentioned this woman to me.
am i being silly? do i ask him? or just watch the next months and wait?