I've been with my boyfriend for two years. In the beginning it was really intense and he made me feel so special. I wasn't looking for anyone but when we met I really did think he was " the one"....I still believe he is but don't know whats going wrong with us.
We both live in seperate houses and have children....used to see each other about four or five nights a week ..if we weren't together we would chat by text through the evening.
The last few months he's been different...usually saying he's tired or coming up with some kind of excuse so he can't see me. I tried talking to him to find out what's wrong and brought on this massive change but he either totally shuts down or accused me of being too emotional, which I don't think I am...I just prefer to talk openly and honestly . He used to be very emotional himself but is fairly cold and insensitive now towards me.
Last month I suggested a break of two weeks with no contact to give him time to think. After the two weeks he said he realised how much he loves me, that he hasn't been treating me properly and was sorry and that we should move our relationship along by planning moving in together. He made so many beautiful promises and was so loving and back to how he used to be...until a couple of weeks later and he's cold and distant again. Too tired to talk about anything and saying he doesn't have the energy to deal with the emotions. I've seen him once in the last two weeks as he's shut me out yet again. I really don't know how to deal with this. Im very much in love with him.
He was married before and she hurt him badly. He has major trust issues and doesn't even fully trust me. He has said to me that sometimes he shuts me out because he thinks I'm too pretty so must be up to something with other men so he lets me" get on with it" This is nonsense as I would never dream of being unfaithful. The last time I saw him I asked him why does he make such a big thing of thinking I want to be with other men, he admitted he has been looking at porn and it's affected how he views women. I'm quite shocked at this and feel somehow betrayed. The whole thing is a mess, I feel my heart has been broken by him over and over and I just wish he was like he used to be. I wanted to see him last night to talk seriously about where this is heading and to try and address some of the issues but he texted to say he was too tired again. I just feel like giving up as he's disappointed me so very much but really did think he was the love of my life and deep down still do