DH and I agreed we need to split. What happens now?

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I told him a while ago that I'm unhappy. I knew we needed to split and last night finally told him. He didn't disagree.

We have 2 DCs, a house with equity and he has a pension. He is going to be the one to move out.

House is worth 160k, mortgage is 55k. I paid the 75k deposit and I've paid about 15k getting the house done up. DH pays the mortgage and 5k has been paid off.

I have a disability so limited with work and earnings. I will be the resident parent. DH has a good job and a decent pension.

Deposit was paid with an inheritance that I received and savings I made (we don't have joint accounts or finances). DH said he would never go after that if it came to splitting. Now he's talking about 50/50 which I'm a bit annoyed about. I said if I can have the house I'll leave his pension alone. Not sure he's keen on that idea.

So what happens now? He can't move out straight away, he has zero money saved. He is talking about affording rent etc, he can, he just always says he can't afford stuff because he is pretty tight with money. We can't tell DCs until it's nearly time for him to move out so it's going to feel like limbo for a while and I'm not keen on dragging this it forever.

Did you protect your deposit
Can you show where it came from - bank statements etc

Courts would start higher than 50% as you have children - more likely 75:80

But you need urgent legal advice quickly

I think you need a solicitors appointment asap. Nobody on here is going to be able to give you the serious legal advice that you need. It sounds quite complicated.

Well done on making the decision.

Didn't protect deposit, stupidly, because he said I wouldn't go after it if we ever did split. Now he's saying about how hard he's worked in his job etc, which yes he has but that did not, and never would have, resulted in this house.

I can show where the money came from. Got my aunt's Will and my bank statements.

Thanks Ford feels such a relief and I'm glad it's done as it's been on my mind for a very long time.