Pushed my head into door frame

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I’ve had no sleep as both my sons were awake last night. I just wanted to chill but my partner wants to start doing deep cleans , which inevitably Ive had to get involved in. Arguments ensues, and I’m trying to get into the room while he is trying to get out. He tries pushing through me, so I push back. He doesn’t stop and ends up pushing my head into the door frame. I’m so upset. I’ve told him it’s over between us now, he’s seems bothered. He’s just continued cleaning. Didn’t even say sorry.

I'm sorry, that sounds awful. Has he ever got physical with you before?

How old are your DC, are they his?

Been together a long time. 15 years. He’s never done anything in all that time. But In the last couple of months little things have started to happen. This is the third
time now...

Get the DC and go somewhere safe. Sorry this has happened to you

Oh I'm sorry OP

He sounds awful! Good for you for telling him it's over. That's unacceptable behaviour from him

Are you going to stick to your words?

Thanks. He was telling me I have no class and he doesn’t know why he had kids with me. We have three kids, 1 with a disability. He’s been to one hospital appt. But I have no class. I’m done with this relationship. I’m sure with benefits etc I’ll be able to get my own place. I’m my son’s full time carer.

He sounds awful. Get plans in place to leave the relationship.

I’m going to. I’m telling him tonight again that’s it’s over. He still hasn’t said anything about it. It’s over

Good for you.

Have you told anyone in RL what's going on? He's showing worrying signs of aggression and I'd be hesitant to tell him the relationship is over without some sort of backup.

Be careful OP. You are vulnerable right now. He sounds volatile and if he believes you are leaving then he might get worse. Play 'nice' but make secret plans to leave as soon as you can. Today.

I’m telling him tonight again that’s it’s over

1. if you do feel the need to tell him again, tell him from afar, not in person.

2. it sounds like you feel you need his permission or acknowledgment of the situation to leave. He's not going to to give you this so if you want to leave, you just have to do it - he's not going to be on board with the idea, obviously. Remember, that's part of why you're leaving.

Just take the kids and go - don't stick around to let him diminish his abusive behaviour and control you further. You're clearly on your own now so start acting like it and stop waiting for his permission.

Stay safe and good luck

Have you got somewhere to go? Do you think he’ll leave? Horrible situation-he sounds awful

I agree with a pp - play nice, get your escape route sorted before driving it home that you're leaving

Anyone who could be with you when you tell him?

The fact he seemed not to be bothered and showed no guilt/apology for doing that, nor was he drunk etc makes it seem far worse tbh and more likely repeat offences could happen...