Should I be worried about my dating progress

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I met this guy like 3 months ago and we are not working in the same city( he’s in Manchester I’m in Liverpool). We hanged out quite nice every time and when we were not staying with each other he texted me almost everyday evening after work.

This month before Xmas I left UK for vacation while he’s still working. He started texting me once every 2-3 days but I could tell he’s still thinking about me although we are not talking everyday because of the time difference. However, after he went back to Leeds for Xmas he seemed became really passive. Like normally he joked about things a lot but after he backed home in Leeds not anymore.

Don’t know if I’m Overthinking or what, I just felt different. Yes he replied me when I texted him how have you been, told me what he’s been doing over the vacation but he always read my messages then replied after like 7-8 hrs. He also told me it’s been boring over the Xmas time so I assumed he doesn’t have too much to do.

I just wanna know if I should still text him sometimes if he kept not sending me message first like before? His birthday is coming up and I’ll be back in the UK and he will be back in Manchester, should I celebrate his birthday with him?? Or you guys think it’s too much now as his feeling on me is fading?

Just do what you feel is appropriate- you know what's going on more than we do.

Be busy and ignore him. He will text and find out why you havent been in touch, if he wants to. Then youll know.

I assume he is with family?
Christmas at my family is beyond 'boring" but I won't be rude enough to start texting the minute my phone pings. Much as I hate Christmas tv and chats about the neighbours cousin, I won't sit there with my phone in hand texting. It's simple manners. See if he reverts to normal after Christmas. And stop panicking.

@Thingsdogetbetter you are probably right, it’s just I’m feeling a bit weird that he didn’t mention about Djing anymore lately which he talked about it all the time before Xmas even tho I brought it up

Was he actually djing and talking about it, or just talking about? If the latter he was trying to look cool and has now run out of things to say about it.

You seem to be analysing everything and expecting everything to stay exactly the same and panicking if it doesn't.
He's with family, you're abroad, of course things will be different. Wait til life is normal again and see how things are. Then decide if spending his birthday with him is good for you. It's a new ldr, don't over invest so quickly.

Checking and comparing text reply times and conversation topics kinda suggests a ldr isn't for you.

I actually disagree with PP. I think he’s gone cold and you’re picking up on it. Trust your gut. If he was into you it wouldn’t matter that it’d been xmas, he’d have found the time to get in touch; everyone goes to the bathroom multiple times per day, everyone has free time alone before bed and after waking up.

He’s just not that into you and it’s fizzled, which is normal at this stage. Definitely don’t chase, just crack on with your life.