Personality vs looks

[Hotchocolate18]

Do you think personality can make someone appear more attractive?
Say someone with looks of 5 had a personality of say 9 could be more attractive than someone who's looks were 9 but personality a 4.
Be interesting to see what people think and people perceive as attractive.

My friend wanted to set me up with a guy she worked with. I met him at a party and straight away said to my friend, no way! I ended up marrying him.

Personality for me definitely makes someone more attractive! Which is why I’m really disliking OLD

Personality over anything .....

I've dated people who I think are a looks 8 with personality 2
And vide Versa - the personality always makes someone more attractive to me.
Looks fade - personality doesn't

Were you together long meg
I think this is why I'm struggling with OLD too, I think you can't really get a jist of someones personality and I think personality wins me overall

I think it depends on how you meet.

E.g. If I met someone through friends then I might not think 'phwoar look at them' initially but find myself becoming attracted to them for their whole package (which would include a mix of looks and personality). But if I was online dating or in a bar then I think there would need to be a more obvious physical connection or appeal to kick start things or make me want to initiate a conversation.

I don't think I could be in a relationship if there wasn't any physical attraction.

No doubt someone will turn up and say looks don't matter to them at all.

Yea I guess because you would have someone introducing you and a common topic to begin with rather than just spotting each other from across the room and going on looks.

Personality every time. I lnow a guy who gives me fanny gallops just by walking into the room.

Saw a pic on facebook before we ever met and thought "so geeky and thin and no way"

About 30 seconds after we did actually meet, I wanted nothing more than to jump his bones.

His personality is just electric, can't describe it.

Yes, if you’re not at all attracted it will be a problem but personality is what makes or breaks a relationship (and if you love the personality, that will definitely increase attractiveness).

As someone that definitely leans to sapophilia, I would have to say yes.

When I was younger (evolution, reproductive urges?) I tended to go for "lookers" which was a BAD idea!

Ex was good looking (then - he looks shit now) but definitely not blessed in the cerebral or personality depts!

As I've got older I definitely go more for people who stimulate my mind.

However, I'm permanently single so wtf do I know? 😂

Good looks are the initial draw, but they only last about two minutes. If he's not a nice person or not my kind of personality, the looks fade and he appears less attractive. Because he is.

Someone initially average looking, if they are kind and smile a lot soon become more attractive to me.

I find classic good looks a turn off in the sense that I feel that the guy is totally out of my league. I find a wide range of men attractive (looks wise) if their personality is kind. Currently chatting to a guy on POF who is built like a brick shit house lol, but writes poetry and volunteers for a mental health charity. On paper his personality is hugely attractive. And he hasn't asked for a blowjob or sent a dick pic.

My ex was very classically good looking and I felt quite in awe of him. I fancied the pants off him and ignored many red flags because of it. Obviously didn't work out well... the sex and physical attraction was great but the rest was awful. now I'm on online dating I'm going more for personality and hoping to find someone who isn't an abusive dickhead.

Personality.

broccoli id grab him quick he sounds a gem! 😁 see looks can be so deceiving sometimes.
Maybe that's why OLD is so hard for alot of people, you can put on any persona you wish through a phone.

Currently I'm speaking to someone I met through mutual friends. If I saw him on old I prob would have passed him but his personality is amazing. I do have some attraction to him but he grows more attractive to me from his personality.

I remember another instant where there was an amazingly hot/good looking guy at work. However he used to March all over the show talking to people like shit. He instantly became unattractive

Looks last 2 dates. They might get you in the door a bit quicker but if there’s no substance I’d rather date someone who looked like Shrek and made me laugh like a drain. Warmth, kindness, shared values, generosity of spirit, integrity, and intelligence are way, way more important and attractive than nice hair or a super firm butt. The hair and butt will fade in time, but the personality won’t. Lovely hairy forearms are a bonus 😁

I definitely believe that a good personality can make someone more attractive (and a bad personality can make someone less attractive) However, there has to be some attraction in the first place for you to stick around long enough for this to happen. I think this is why sometimes friends end up together. There may have been no attraction to begin with but then over time that person becomes attractive due to their personality

Personality... An ex of mine, in distant past, was, by everyone's account 'absolutely stunning'... But he actually was very messed up and very abusive.. Because the physical attraction has been so strong, it was messy to disentangle myself.

lelly exactly, those are all traits I find attractive. I've dated a few good looking guys and I got alot of arrogance from them. Like I was lucky to date them or something. Instant turn off.

Sexual attraction is complicated and sometimes unfathomable but it is definitely possible to be attracted to someone who is not particularly physically attractive but has other qualities such as an intriguing personality

It is, I was infatuated with someone this year I thought I was in love but then realised it was his looks and sexual attraction that pulled me in along with charm but we didn't have nothing in common and he was a bit of a player.

Attraction to looks is shallow and shortsighted. Looks fade. Fast. Superficially yes done people make wonderful ornaments to life but prptebtial partners, friends, employees aren’t attractive by virtue of the way they look.

Personality. Like others have said, looks fade.

been with DH for over 30 years and all over the Xmas period, all we have done is laugh and joke together, he always makes me laugh.

I feel like laughter is a big thing. No matter how good looking someone is if they can't make me laugh or joke around then they in my eyes aren't attractive

For me it's intelligence. If they're bright and know how to be funny and read all social cues? I'm a goner!

They could look like Gollum for all I care.

Well.. the later is not 'entirely' true....

could look like Gollum 😂
Laughter does make a lot of difference in attractiveness