We’ve only had sex twice in 2 years, what to do?

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Hey!
Been with my partner for 5 years and we have a 2 year old together. Our sex life hasn’t always been the best but it’s existed! However since little one was born we’ve literally had sex once a year!!!!
He’s on anti depressants which I know can affect the libido but Iv tried talking to him asking him if we can both go back the doctors to see what we both can do.
I respect that it’s hard for him that’s why I don’t bring it up often but I don’t know what to do next! I crave attention. He never hugs, kiss me, or holds my hand in public. We get on but we are more like mates.
I just don’t know what to do, we have talked so much and he just says he never thinks about sex

So it's not just sex you're missing, it's physical affection? Interesting that he doesn't like to hand hold etc, these are not exactly just sex activities

The only time we kiss is to say goodbye/hello. We never cuddle. I don’t feel like I’m enough or what he truly wants but because we have a son he wouldn’t want us to spilt

Anti depressants are passion killers.

ADs are a scourge on libido. Just awful. Sorry.

What a horrible situation to be in....What was his response when you suggested visiting the Dr?

I get that he wouldn't want you to separate because of your child, but you can't be expected to just switch off because the topic makes him uncomfortable.

And yes I would say this if op was male too...

Think back to how he was before you had a baby - did he ever hold your hand or kiss you randomly /for the hell of it?

You sound a bit like me and my H. Took a long time to have our first son so sex was not too great by the time we got pg. Took 2 years to have sex after DS was born (that was a long 2 years...) and got pg with #2 that one time we had sex. Since #2 was born we're in a much better place and, although not often, we have sex enough for us.
But my H isn't physically affectionate. I though he'd changed since becoming a dad but I reflected back on our relationship and he never had been one to initiate kisses or hand holding or cuddles. I never realised it was always me! But he does kiss me back or give me a hug when I ask and just accept it's who he is and he doesn't love me less.

I live this... I still want him and I'm the one on the antidepressants...

What does that say...

sanity. He is the one with the problem then. Ask him why.