Changed my mind

[Iamtheoneandonly2018]

2nd 3rd 4th thoughts about marriage. Got engaged November supposed to be getting married next year. Would be my 3rd marriage. BUT. He's ASD. His son also - major issuess with DSS mum ( he won't stand up to her ). I'm fed up of CASSANDRA syndrome. I don't want to leave my home and move into his. Beginning to resent him - Guess I've answered my own question. I just feel so lonely. Mum n Sis live 85 miles away and toxic relationship so finally decided after LC to go NC for the sake of my MH.

Marriages don't seem to be addressing your needs? Have you looked in to 'Attachment Theory'?

Im giving you the face purely for the Rick Astley reference. Or whoever it was.

@NotTheFordType Chesney Hawkes ;)

OP. Some married couples do live in seperate houses... depends why you want to get married. You don’t seem overly positive about him. What are his good points?

Good points
Honest trustworthy fab at IT stuff. Usually reliable.
Bad points. Makes me needy ( not his fault as due to his ASD isn't consistent with affection ). Let's his ex and ASD son walk all over him. Not great at making plans

My bad points - moody ( mostly due to CASSANDRA) and frustrated as I'm.always needing to motivate him to make plans /do stuff.
Honestly he's a great guy but I'm coming to the conclusion that I need more affection than he can give me- we've tried to work on this before but I get angry as have to remind him.to give me affection- vicious circle.

Why would you marry him? I'm not being facetious but even if you weren't having doubts about the relationship what is to gain from marrying at this stage? Is it really worth it (do either of you have over the inheritance threshold for assets, etc)?

Not looked into inheritance. We've been together nearly 3 years. I suppose I just was looking for another way. Don't think there is one. It's just sad.