So it’s no secret that me and my husband separated in April as I have posted a few times.
But now my brother has now gone and separated with his long term partner right before Christmas at a family event. She was in tears!
The thing is I know my brother and he can be unbearable to live with, he is emotionally abusive and was physically abusive to me as a child but not to his partner but did have her in tears almost daily.
He was so jealous when she past her driving test that she was in tears!!
So I know she’ll be much happier without him. He never bothered with the kids, he was either at work, fishing or the football or on the PS4.
Her and I get on really well too so I know our kids will still be close growing up.
He’s the one that ended it, and he’s doing the part of playing the victim so well. He’s got my mum, other brother and his wife fooled and defending him saying well she did this and that (little things like not cleaning after having the kids all day/being a work) they also moaned he had to contribute towards the bills so never had any money. Just ridiculous things.
But they don’t mention anything he did, they never really liked his partner without any good reason apart from the fact his partner moaned about my other brother and his wife a lot because they’d lend my brother money and charged him ridiculous interest rates. All behind her back. Now they are acting really smug, almost celebrating they aren’t together. And I’d enough today. My brother has been moddled coddled and spoilt by my mum and needs to learn to stand on his own two feet. Couples separated, but I think he should be forced to learn how to manage on his own without being bailed out constantly but my family are completely blind sided by him.
Anyway I can’t cope with their smugness and lack of empathy for my nephews (one of which most likely has autism) and my brother’s ex. It’s unbearable. She was in bits over Christmas while they go off and basically shout it from the roof tops. I don’t know how they can be so insensitive. It’s been 4 days and they have discarded her like rubbish in the bin already.
I tried not to get involved but they kept bringing it up, so I finally stuck up for her and now we’ve fallen out.
My mum is making a HUGE mistake letting him back home, she hated living with him. It’s his way or no way and I don’t want to watch it unfold for the worse and I’ll have no part in it.