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TTCI · 28/12/2018 08:24

Hello looking for advice on my relationship, I am dyslexic so there may be some mistakes but will try and avoid that.

My partner and I have been together 2 years. We have one 4 month old little girl. He's 23 and I am 25. In September I found he had been messaging some 18 year old on Snapchat that lived ages away and asked her things like "are you a model?" And they talked about meeting up. I found out because I had a gut instinct something was up so I went through his phone. I snap chatted her and asked to answer me honestly and she did, she told me everything. She said he had told her we weren't together and I was his best friend he had had a baby with. He sent her pictures of our baby. I was devastated when I found out and angry that he had been talking to her while I was pregnant. Anyway he said sorry and begged me not to leave, said he wouldn't do it again and he knows what he nearly lost.He said would do anything including deleting Snapchat (his suggestion) he then re downloaded it after only a month or so. Fast forward to now and we've had huge rows lately and he acted really odd over Christmas (something bad happened to him when he was younger around Christmas time). Our relationship is really on the rocks but I'm desperate for him not to give up because I don't want to be apart from my little girl and I want us to all stay together. I felt like maybe he was messaging someone again so I tried to check but he had logged out of us Snapchat despite being on it before bed. I can't stop crying I feel like he is.

OP posts:
TTCI · 28/12/2018 23:56

Earlier he went to kfc and i saw it on Snapchat maps and iPhone finder but he refused to admit it. I wasn't bothered he went but he just would not tell the truth but I knew he had. I can't cope with the lying even about really trivial things.

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biggirlknickers · 29/12/2018 07:31

Does he often lie about trivial things?

OP one day you will go to college. It could be in 2019 or it could be in 5 years time but I know you will make it happen. I know it.

biggirlknickers · 29/12/2018 07:35

“Family know what's going but no ones really bothering”

I would hazard a guess that they are waiting for you to say what you need from them. You are an independent adult now and they don’t want to storm in and take over. But when you ask for help they will be there.

MumsyJ · 29/12/2018 08:51

Sending you cuddles. Him lying about even visiting kfc? He's such a waste of time. He's capitalising on the love you have for him. I agree with @biggirlknickers, I think when you ask for your family's help, they'll be happy to render. I know it's ok to cry but don't cry in front of him, but most of all, not in front of your lovely baby, be strong xx

PaleRider1 · 29/12/2018 14:21

You're his puppet and you're continuing to allow him to pull your strings.

Why keep putting yourself through this? It isn't going to get any better, and I can assure you, your head will feel a hell of a lot less muddled once he is gone.

Reach out to your family, your friend. Go stay with them for a few days and finish it with this loser.

Closetbeanmuncher · 29/12/2018 18:28

The more I read the more I'm certain....

That old him you're missing??

It's a mask I'm afraid....This is who he is and this is and always has been under that mask.

He's messing with your head and you're buying right into it......

You're covering for him to friends and family.

You're family haven't said anything because
they are respecting your life choices being as you haven't asked for help.

Ask them for help before he ruins you, if not for you then for your baby girl. You sound vulnerable and men like this abomination can smell it a mile away.

Trust me on this Flowers

Closetbeanmuncher · 29/12/2018 18:30

*being as you are an adult and haven't asked for help

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