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Will this feeling pass?

12 replies

gretad · 27/12/2018 19:35

Bit of a strange one...

I met DP young and had DC young. We split up when he was a couple of weeks old because DP wasn't stepping enough as much as I'd wanted. Skip ahead until DC is 1 and we reconcile. We've been back together 6 months. I can't really fault him, especially not as a father, he's excellent now.
But sometimes... things don't seem right. IYSWIM? I love him and he's my best friend and this is all I've ever wanted but sometimes I'm not sure if I can see myself with him forever, not sure if I'd be happy forever. I have attractions to other people and feel like while I was single for a year, I was so busy being a mum that I didn't have any time for myself, dating, experiences etc.

Will this feeling pass? I feel completely stuck.

OP posts:
gretad · 27/12/2018 19:49

BumpBear

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Travisandthemonkey · 27/12/2018 19:56

Why did you reconcile
I mean really ask yourself that question
Because in there lies your answer

NotTheFordType · 27/12/2018 19:59

What does he do that makes you say he's an excellent parent?

(I believe your DS is under 1hr, correct me if wrong)

gretad · 27/12/2018 20:01

@NotTheFordType sorry, under 1hr?

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NotTheFordType · 27/12/2018 20:01

I mean 1yr! One hour :D

gretad · 27/12/2018 20:02

DS is almost 2!Smile

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gretad · 27/12/2018 20:07

@NotTheFordType he's just generally an excellent parent in my eyes, he went above and beyond for us even when we weren't together, he works hard and studied hard for us, he puts so much effort into doing fun stuff with our DS and playing, would never complain about doing bathtime, bedtime etc even after a long day etc etc, the list goes on.

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gretad · 27/12/2018 20:33

@Travisandthemonkey we ended up reconciling as he started getting closer with a female friend, I got jealous and we talked through everything and reconciled.

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nicea · 27/12/2018 20:40

One hourGrin

Travisandthemonkey · 27/12/2018 20:42

Oh dear op.
I’m not sure that’s the best reason to get back together
Simply jealously.
If you had said he met someone but then we both realised we really loved each other and then decided to make it work
Then that’s another thing

bumblebeess · 27/12/2018 22:57
Flowers
Closetbeanmuncher · 28/12/2018 00:15

So to summarize you don't want him but you can't bear the thought of anyone else having him?

Pardon my bluntness but it's not really the stuff of solid foundations is it??

Let's cut to the chase...if you want a single life then cut him free; but have the maturity to accept that eventually he will find someone else.

Greener grass syndrome...

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