Can I get help from Women's Aid for this?

[timefordoordie]

I've looked on the local website, but it talks a a lot about being in immediate danger and 'being safe'.

My husband can be aggressive verbally and intimidating but never physically violent. I am, however, scared of how he will behave if I did leave with our children. I don't know if he would be violent but he would be frightening, and, I expect vengeanceful. He would tell everyone I was evil. Mainly though, I have come to see the relationship as psychologically and emotionally abusive. It's become obvious that my husband sees me as his property, not a person. He has and will continue to, take everything from me if it advantages him. He can, however, be very supportive practically when there is no real cost to him. He thinks he is a good husband.

I am extremely depressed. I would like to talk through my options with someone. Would Women's Aid help someone in my situation?

Definitely. The term domestic violence includes emotionally violent behaviour these days. Ring their 24 hr helpline or your local number if you have one and if they're open now. Don't let him know you're even thinking of doing anything though. They'll be more than happy just to talk if that's what you want at this time. Take care timefordoordie.

Thanks. I guess I'm worried they will think i am a time waster, compared to other cases they see.

Yes, you're wise to be wary about what he'd be like if you tried to leave, it's the most dangerous time for women with an abusive partner.

Sorry cross posted. They won't and you're not.😀

Yes... they were very helpful to talk to. My ex wasn't incredibly physically violent but very psychologically abusive

You could also google IDVA+the area you're in
They're Independent Domestic Violence Advisors and work in the community rather than refuge

So sorry to read this, you're having a miserable time. Yes do contact Women's Aid they are there for people exactly like you. Please get help, as soon as you can. I hope thing works out for you.

I recently did the Freedom Course run by Women’s Aid. They pointed out that they’re not just there for women who’ve suffered physical abuse but also there for women who’ve been controlled, coerced or been with / or are with emotional abusers. It’s easier to recognise when you’ve been physically abused but the other stuff is just as bad.

It’s domestic abuse, which covers a multitude of behaviours by vile men. If you want to leave WA will help.