so have been separated from my ex about 2 yrs (his choice and decision) and in process of divorce and I have been seeing lovely man for nearly a year now. We both have kids and they have all met each other now and get on well, our daughters message each other etc. But my ex doesn't seem to be able to accept that I'm with someone else. He knows about hm of course, i told him after a few months and then he exploded at me in front of our children and hence they found out, not how I would have done it but it is what it is. Anyway when I felt time right I introduced DP to my kids and then eventually all the kids. My partner knows all this. When the kids mention my DP in front go him he refers to him as "that bloke". My ex isn't seeing someone but has been on dating sites, my kids have told me this as they have seen texts on his phone but he won't talk to them about it, saying its not their business. I said that Im very happy for dad and that it's good he is meeting people and when he meets someone special am sure he will tell them but that he is allowed to have a private life and I also told my ex to watch his phone as kids see stuff.
Anyway I'm waffling but Im very aware that my ex is ignoring my new partner existence and I don't want to make him uncomfortable. So i always make sure my DP is never here if my ex is dropping kids etc so he always has to leave before he gets here. My ex does stupid things like my son wanted to pop back to get some stuff and I said fine but my DP is here, so my ex dropped him off a street away and made my son walk the rest of the way to get his stuff, he wouldn't even come on the drive or end of the drive to drop him off! Anyway my DP says he is getting sick of me protecting my ex feelings and he thinks i should stop. I get what he is saying but Im trying very hard to keep everything amicable with me and my ex and also not stress the children. I don't know what I should do?? Have to do some soul searching and try and work out a way forward to keep everyone happy but not sure how.