Can I have some perspective on this please?

[SinkingFeelingAgain]

DD,10 being mean to DS,6. Being a bit hyper and cheeky, as she gets sometimes. I go into bathroom and then come out to find DH bellowing at her to go to her room and pulling her up the stairs by her arms. He’s trying to get her onto the bottom of the stairs, I think she’s on her knees. He’s pulling her bodily straight up.
She’s still being cheeky rather than upset.

I say ‘you can’t pull her like that’, she goes up to her room. He starts saying ‘but she was...’ I say ‘doesn’t matter what she was doing’.

I just don’t know how ok or not this is. This sort of thing is not completely unusual.

I think it’s vital that a girl be taught that no man (No, ,not even her father) should drag her around or manhandle her. For any reason.

So no, I don’t agree that OP should have backed up her husband’s action or his disciplinary approach.

She was not a danger to herself or to anyone else, and he should not be treating her that way. He did that because he was angry and out of control.