Anyone going NC with parent/s after Christmas?

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Huge backstory to my NC. ( abusive step 'parents' on both sides- all types of abuse acted out , never felt I was important to either parent, no interest in GC etc etc, )

Spent yesterday with my father which ended in a fuck off row about his recent shitty behaviour ( what a waste of my anger - obviously it is all MY fault ). Woke up this morning thinking no more, I'm in my 40's I am not that child that has to put up with this shit anymore.

NO more.

Self absorbed bump

Anyone else with toxic parents?

Mid 40's here, nc with df +toxic sm for 20 years. Def recommend it op.

Thanks Santaisonthesherry.

S'm' died last year so she is out of the mix but I had 37 years of verbal abuse with no reaction from my father.

No contact is the only way.

40s here too. Went NC just before last Christmas. Having the most lovely Christmas free from the mind games and verbal abuse, with the freedom from my brother’s alcohol induced violence an added bonus. You won’t regret it, it’s the smartest thing I’ve ever done.
They never change, it’s a never ending circle of: that didn’t happen, if it did it’s your fault, why are you making me feel bad about my shitty behaviour.
Get your life back, and find out what makes you happy xx

Thanks LaLoba.
I'm pleased that you are having the Christmas that you deserve!

My Father lacks a backbone when it comes to his relationships.Allowing a child (me) to be kicked out of his home aged 10 and then forbidden to return for the next 27 years?

Got no fucks left I'm afraid.

Have a look for the " but we took you to stately homes" thread.

I cut out pretty much anyone who wasn't me or my son a couple of years ago.

Cue FB messages "Oh can I have your address, I'd love to send a card"
Me: "No,I don't want to contribute to global warming but please accept my best wishes"
FlyingMN - oH but FAMLY bah blah blah

I will look up the thread NotTheFordType - thanks for the tip!

Feeling like no-one else gets how destructive this behaviour is and how triggering it is for me. I just want to see an end to it. I'm too tired of it.

I can relate to the spineless father! He comes across as the “good guy, stuck in the middle” but he hasn’t just failed to protect his children, he’s been very manipulative with guilt tripping us to stay and take the abuse.

A lot more people than you think understand, you’ll learn who you can count on.